Modern Day Marriage For Women Sucks!

Those on the outside wants to get in while those on the inside wants to get out.It is every girls wish to get married and start her own family but there is the dearth of available men and finding the right one is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Some have given up all hope and concentrated on their careers until one day when they will discover that the world has moved on and did not wait for them.

If you are still single , take heart because there are more women remaining single than married.Eventually and hopefully many will marry in the end.

If you cannot find the right mate , no problems .You don't have to feel pressured to be married. If you are happy , stay that way.

Why modern marriage for women sucks?

During your mother’s generations , they only had to deal with child care and housework in exchange for financial security and a roof over their heads.

In this modern era, women have to work as hard or harder than a man and then still have to take care of the child and house works.

It is even worse when she has to foot the bills while the men just earn for their own keeps.Despite all her sacrifices and contributions, she gets plenty of poisonous vibes from the men and no appreciations or love or a helping hand.
That's what you get when you kiss and marry a jerk…..

Every women do want to get married and everyone of us need love and companionship.God made us that way. I am not trying to discourage marriage , maybe give some cheer to those who are still looking for their mates.

A woman is more discerning and critical when deciding a life partner.It is imbued in her system .Don't marry the first ‘jerk’ that comes along and you will regret later.

According to the New York Times , 51% of the women are living without a spouse. This percentage is sure to go higher as many women may find marriage or the men not measuring up to their expectations.

When the women were not working , they did not have very high expectations but when they entered the work force, they became over critical and had higher expectations of men.

More women are marrying later or living with unmarried partners or marriage is elusive to them. At the other end, women are living longer as widows and not remarrying.They enjoy the freedom and rediscover who they are.

Those who are married may not fare better as having a husband is just the same as being single with kids because the men are working oversea’s or out stations or in the military or in the institutions.

These are the absentee spouse. They are being married and tied down but not enjoying the fruits of a real marriage of togetherness.

Women had to work two shifts. They also work and then had to take care of the kids and and the house works .Even if the men helped them , they still have to do the major part of the jobs.They cannot trust the men from doing the job properly .

If they marry the men about their age, there is a maturity gap.Those men are inexperienced and less matured and they do not know how to treat their wives.

They have this ‘Peter Pan syndrome.’ (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Pan_syndrome ) They are forever kids and don't grow up and are narcissistic .They love themselves more than they love others. Some of them still need their mothers.

Today , women don't have to depend anymore on the men like their mother’s generations.The man’s traditional contributions in marriage becomes irrelevant as the women also take home a cheque and sometimes their cheques are bigger than the man’s. The men are not needed and becomes unwanted.

The new women has arrived but the institutions of marriage and the men are still the same.They have not changed . If they want to marry , they should not go shopping for the perfect mate.It is a rare commodity .

credit and thanks to

What is Peter Pan Syndrome?
http://www.evanbailyn.com/index.php/article/what_is_peter_pan_syndrome/

http://www.glennsacks.com/census_shows_majority.htm

Suggested readings:-

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/01/16/us/16census.html?ex=1326603600&en=8b61820a6c4712e5&ei=5090&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss