No right thinking person would want to be abused or to be treated violently. No man worth his salt would want to abused his wife or use violence against her.
The men swore in their marriage vows, to love their wives with all their hearts and to treat them fairly and equally. This is just a formality to some , for in reality, marriage is all about power , sex and money. Each one trying to win control over the other.
Every women faces some sort of domestic violence when they get married, whether they are from the educated or uneducated or professional class.
Domestic violence can be in the form of physical,sexual, mental ,emotional , social or economic.It results in physical or mental injuries ,damage and humiliation to the victim.
This happens when one partner becomes more domineering and puts fear and it is usually the women who are the victims.There are also men who are victims of abused by their wives.
Some men after the honeymoon period is over becomes compulsive, dominant and sometimes violent when their wife do not listen to them or do as they says.They want to manipulate and control their wives.
Though some men may not use their fist to violently attack the women but some used abusive words which may have the same effects as it will wear them down.
Some Malaysian men are naturally born abusers. They come from a family of women abusers and it is an inborn trait. I am surprised that they never read any books but what the book described an abuser is exactly what they have done to their wives.
They abused their wives under the guise of wanting them to be perfect while they themselves think they are perfect in their own ways.They continually criticized and complained their wives to no ends.
They have two sets of laws in the family .One for him and the other for her.It is O.K for him but not for her.
The women slowly loses her identity, her ability to think straight, her confidence and her self esteemed. She becomes a prisoner in her own house.
She gets mentally tortured daily and she feels lonely , sad and depressed.She has no friends to share her burdens and some unable to take the punishments , take their own life's, to end their pains and miseries.
Get help if you are in an abusive situation.Recognize one and take the remedial actions before it is too late.
Posted by Laura
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