Why you always hurt the one you love the most ?

This is the paradox of life. The person we love the most receive the most vile and objectionable comments from us.We reserve the worst for our spouse and will never think of doing it to our friends.

Give a moment's thought and think deeply of what we have said and how unfair it is to our spouse. Just because s/he is our most loved one,does not mean that we have a right to hurt her/his feelings.

We may not be aware because we think we are doing our spouse a big favour when we tell what is in our mind. We have the mistaken notion that we want her to improve but this is further than the truth. For what we are doing is nothing more than mentally and emotionally abusing our spouse.

I think this applies more to the men than the women.It is very sad when the men treat their wives this way.They accord their female friends better treatments and better respects than their own wife whom they loved and married.

The men are at their best when they talk with their female friends.Why can't they do the same for their wife? What goes on in a man's mind to differentiate them?

In a man's mind, his wife is his partner for life and so he must speak to her in truth and without any pretentious talk or sugar coated words.

They seldom use their brains and just fire them at will.Some could not be bothered about being civil and think that his wife should accept him as what he is..after all she has married him and can do nothing about his real behaviour.

Never giving a thought that his selfish and self conceited ways is an anathema or antithesis in the way of a good relationship.

He will not mask what he wants to say to her but will give it straight into her face ,uncensored and undiluted.Horror of horrors!He does not realize what he said can be very hurtful as he cannot feel the pain.But when the same thing is mirrored back to him, then only he realize the enormity of those words.

It hurts sometimes as she is not used to be treated this way.Other men treat her with much respect and devoid of all those criticisms or acidic comments.

Her husband would criticize her physically and be critical of everything she does and she loses her self esteemed and confidence .There are certain areas which is a no go zone for a woman ,her beauty ,sex and her performance.

It is like suddenly , he woke up from a dream and sees his wife not the same as he idolized..

Men should always think twice about how his wife would react or ponder first before they want to say anything.Women are very sensitive and they always want to know why you said that.

WHY? WHY? Tell me WHY?