Secrets Of A Happy Marriage .

Marriage is not a union merely between two creatures, it is the union between two spirits;and the intention of that bond is to perfect the nature of both, by supplementing the deficiencies with the force of contrast, giving to each sex those excellencies in which it is naturally deficient; to one , a strength of character and firmness of moral wills ; to the other ,sympathy , meekness ,tenderness…- F.W Robertson

The secrets of a true and happy marriage lies in the greatest of all human qualities , altruistic love or agape love in the Christian language.If you are not a Christian , you would not understand it's meaning . Even if you understand it , it is probably unattainable by your own powers.

It is the love which you will pour out from the bottom of your heart unselfishly without any strings or conditions attached. You give freely and not expecting anything in returns.

If you are a family man ,you would understand the depth of your love to your children.If you are unmarried or married and don't have children yet, you will not understand that kind of love.You will not feel it until you have your own children.

You would deny yourself and make great sacrifices for the benefits of your children. This is the kind of love you should accord to your spouse in order to be happily married.

You would put your spouse above your needs and wants and make her/him your top priority.You will endure pain or sufferings for the sake of the one you love ,just like when you were young and madly in love.

Your spouse will not be blind to your agape love and she will appreciate and response in kind and thus creating a positive cycle in your relationship and strengthening it

You need to pour your love into each others tumbler. When the other is full , s/he will pour back with more abundance. Kindness begets kindness and loves begets loves.

We should not be self centred and only think of ourselves or expect to receive the same amount that we have given out.You are being calculative and not doing it for love.

“I did so many things for you and you only repaid so little.” When you have such thoughts, you are being childish."

If you compare to who does the most or contributed the most in your marriage, the woman will win hands down..You cannot argue with a woman. Better to let her win most of the time.That is the super secret of a happy marriage .LOL!



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suggested readings

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Recipe for Happiness in Marriage

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