The nearly weds

They are almost there but yet fate is unkind to them and their dreams are shattered .It is a devastating and cruel blow and being single again in their 30's is calamitous.

They have spent years in a long term relationship which they thought could lead to marriage and at the last minute , the man suddenly chickens out.

Their life's are turned upside down and the prospect of starting again from scratch is very daunting . They have no choice but to shoulder on and hopefully meet a better prospect in the future.

She may feel a sense of failure on her part or wonder if there is something wrong with her or that her expectations were to high which lead to the break up.

When women are in love , they are like a runaway train without brakes going down a hill.They will only stop when they lose all the steam and smashing everything in its path.

It is not all doom and gloom as even in dark clouds, there are silver linings.It would be better to break up now then to get married and divorce later .

She should consider herself lucky to discover his lack of commitments at this stage. There are some women who hooked up with some men for 10 years and nothing have changed. They are like stucked in quicksand and powerless to get out .

Being single again gives her an opportunity to find and understand herself and live the life she wants. She may decide to pour her life and soul into her career and being financial independent.

Whether you are married or single, you can still find happiness and you are a complete person and you do not need any man to make you complete. You create your own happiness.

It is better to have loved and lose than not to love at all.

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