It is no more shocking to read those news. The age of sex has crept lower and lower and it is a sign of the times.The attitudes and values about sex has changed .
The media's portrayal of sex , the easy availability of sex from the internet and their busy parents are the some of the reasons for the change in the outlook and norms .
Those young girls are experiencing sex at an earlier age because of a change in attitude towards virginity.Virginity is no more an honour but a burden and they are in a hurry to lose their virginity to any guy.
The younger generations do not think highly of virginity and if they are still virgin by 15, she would be considered uncool or not the 'in' crowd. She maybe shunned from her group and some girls would lie about losing their virginity.
Having sex even if consensual is statutory rape under the law. Most of the girls have sex with their casual friends or boyfriends and some of them are about the same age.
The punishment is not the same depending on the man's age. If they are the same age or 2 years older, the man is fined , send to reform school , given probation or sometimes jailed.
The sentence is severe if the man is much older, he maybe jailed longer(18 to 20 years) and given six strokes of the cane.Even if the girls consented or lie about their age.
The underage girl is not punished as she is considered a minor and not responsible for her actions. She may lie about her age and in that heated moment , the men may not bother to check.
Those underage girls are engaging in unsafe sex and as a result they became pregnant or infected with STI's. Most of those girls do not understand the consequences or the responsibilities of their sexual exploits.
It is not entirely their fault because parents are too busy with their jobs and left their children to their own devices or under the care of their grandparents or maids.
The parents did not pay much attention to their daughters activities and those young girls have a tendency to lie about their activities from their parents.
Parents will have to get more involved in their teen's life and monitor their activities.It is the time when they require more attentions and love. When they don't get them , they will seek outside and from any man who would give them.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.asiaone.com/News/Education/Story/A1Story20090807-159817.html
Saturday, August 8, 2009
More girls aged below 14 are having sex.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
A smile makes a woman more attractive than wearing makeups !
Smile! Smile! Smile! And the world smiles with you.A smiling face of a woman is more attractive than the sultry pose of a woman with make ups. A Mona Lisa smile would send those guys tingling in their heads...LOL! WOW! She smiles bewitchingly!
A smile does not cost you anything. You only have to twitch a few face muscles and you can spread the warmth, generate those strong electrical impulses and send them bolting like lightning strikes to your target.
You will instantly transform into the most beautiful woman at that place and time. The more you smile, the more you will exercise your face muscles and be able to fight aging.
You will also elicit the best response from the other person.
If you have a sultry pose and not a grin , you would appear to be moody or uninterested to the men.
A study by Orbit Complete for National Smile Month, has revealed nearly 70 per cent find women more attractive when they smile than when they wear make-up. No need to waste your hard earned money to buy those cosmetics.
Use those make ups only on very special occasions so that he will realize that you are a sparkling gem when you are bedecked with those magical dust. If you put it on everyday, he would take you for granted and there will be nothing very special about you anymore.
Why are you wearing makeups?
Is it not to present yourself in the best looking self ? You may think you are just plain looking or have imperfections which need to cover up. It is not about your looks but your confidence. If you are confident, you will have that kind of look which is very appealing to the opposite sex.
You should not be too self conscious about what other people will think of you .Be natural and smiles always.
Don't you think women are more attractive without their make ups?
Make ups can accentuate certain features but if you are going to spend 24 hours together, it is better to be who you are...
Some women will need to have makeups because it is like a clutch to them. They will need makeups to feel confident. Without it , they will feel naked and too plain looking or flawed.
Each of us are beautiful inside and out and when there is love, everything is very beautiful, for love is blind!
True happiness is achieved not by putting on makeups but by the acceptance of others.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/2484454/Guys-think-grins-are-smiles-better.html
http://www.helium.com/items/859970-are-women-more-attractive-without-makeup-on
http://www.helium.com/items/1316840-makeup-or-no-makeup
Monday, May 25, 2009
Are you falling out of love ?
When you are just married, everything is so sweet and fragrant.It is the beginning of a new journey of hope ,great expectations and promises . You want to go out there to conquer the world , climb the highest mountain and live life to the fullest with your soul mate.
The real world is different from our imaginary world . It can be very cold , cruel and harsh and the attrictions of life can tear and wear one down. You will find that your love for him/her is not the same anymore .
Circumstance have changed and molded your new perceptions of life and your partner. Now, you see with a more matured, experience and cynical outlook.
The one whom you idolized and worshiped the ground s/he walks on does not glitter and shine anymore but appear jaded and faded.
Do you want to walk away or perform CPR, the kiss of life to revive the marriage?
Some marriages are in the ICU and fate will decide the outcome. It is difficult to rekindle or spark the fire again when it has been extinguished for a very long time.
If one is the air- conditioning and the other a deep freezer , blowing at each other,then the wall of ice that separates the two of you will grow thicker and stronger and your home will be in a perpetual winter.
If you want to save your marriage and to rekindle the love again, you will need to start a fire to thaw out that icy wall from your home. You need to care about each other more,to nurture your relationship and to love him/her again unconditionally.
To see him again through another's eye. To focus on his strength and positives. No one is perfect and do not have too high expectations of others.
Either one of you will have to change for the better to save the marriage. You cannot change others but only yourself.
If after all you have done and tried your very best and the patient cannot revive, then you will have to accept your fate and let him/her go.
If there is no more love and happiness and your union is broken down beyond repair, it is better to release each other and seek each others destiny.
Marriage is no bed of roses and you have to work at it.Marriage is a journey of a lifetime until death separates us. You need to look out for each other , help each other to fulfill their aspirations and to carry each other's burdens.
If you want love, you need to give love first. Sow more love and you will reap more love.
Related topic
http://www.theartofloveandintimacy.com/2008/10/get-back-that-loving-feeling-absolutely.html
Monday, December 29, 2008
The nearly weds
They are almost there but yet fate is unkind to them and their dreams are shattered .It is a devastating and cruel blow and being single again in their 30's is calamitous.
They have spent years in a long term relationship which they thought could lead to marriage and at the last minute , the man suddenly chickens out.
Their life's are turned upside down and the prospect of starting again from scratch is very daunting . They have no choice but to shoulder on and hopefully meet a better prospect in the future.
She may feel a sense of failure on her part or wonder if there is something wrong with her or that her expectations were to high which lead to the break up.
When women are in love , they are like a runaway train without brakes going down a hill.They will only stop when they lose all the steam and smashing everything in its path.
It is not all doom and gloom as even in dark clouds, there are silver linings.It would be better to break up now then to get married and divorce later .
She should consider herself lucky to discover his lack of commitments at this stage. There are some women who hooked up with some men for 10 years and nothing have changed. They are like stucked in quicksand and powerless to get out .
Being single again gives her an opportunity to find and understand herself and live the life she wants. She may decide to pour her life and soul into her career and being financial independent.
Whether you are married or single, you can still find happiness and you are a complete person and you do not need any man to make you complete. You create your own happiness.
It is better to have loved and lose than not to love at all.
Suggested readings :-
http://nz.lifestyle.yahoo.com/b/marie-claire/5601/suddenly-single-what-its-like-to-go-it-alone/
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Love is a many splendid thing.
What is this thing called love ? Why two completely different beings can fall in love with each other and bond together .
Why does a man and woman fall in love with each other? Two very incompatible human beings joined together by this flimsy thing called love , like a glue bonding each other and one complementing the other.
Love is like the elixir of life .Those who discovered it will enjoy their life and find the fulfillment .For many others, it would be an elusive dreams.
True love is hard to find except for God's love.Love is never perfect . When you really love someone , you will be blind and you would not even notice if s/he has only one eye.
You wont see the other person's faults, scars or warts and all.But human love is not permanent and not everlasting or eternal .Today love , tomorrow hate. Love is a feeling, it can grow or it can wilt and die.
There is only one true love that last.It is the love of God for us ,it will never fade nor grow cold. Love is like a plant , you need sunshine, water and fertilizer..
Without these, the plant will die.The plant cannot survive if no one waters it , or if there is no sunshine or fertilizers.The gardener must be loving, tender and knows how to take care of the plant.
The soil (Your environments and surroundings) is also important. If it is planted on rocky soil, it wont be healthy.It must be planted on those black fertile soil for the plant to bloom and flower beautifully.
Will your love be strong when the storm comes..?A sailor who has not faced a storm before can never be a good sailor.
For a man , love is just an episode , the end while woman is just the beginning of her life.
Many a man have this mistaken notion that after the chase or hunt and then the subsequent joy of marriage, they will settle down to a world of bliss where his wife would serve him .
When he wakes up from the stupor of love,he realizes that a thousand miles journey has just only begun. His nose will be strung with a rope like an ox and he has to pull the cart all alone or with his other half.
For the woman,her dreams of a golden sanctuary or Shangrilla where love makes everything beautiful with her golden idol in the centre of her life is but only a dream; when love vaporizes like the morning dews,the golden idol is just an idol with feet of clay.
When you are young, your love is very strong and hot like a young fire which is light and flickering but when you are older , your love is deep burning like hot coals and unquenchable.
Love makes the world go around.I agree, but how deep is your love and how much will you sacrifice or endure for the one you love? Is he that worthy as to die for him?
One can always think love is the answer but as you get older and more mature, you want more practical love than idealistic love.
'There is nothing half so sweet in life as love's young dreams.' - Moore
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Free wonderful gifts that will win any woman's heart.
You do not have to spend an exorbitant amount to buy these gifts to win your WAG's heart.They cost you nothing and the results is fantastic beyond belief. Try it and you will find that your relationship will zoom off to the moon or the stars.
THE GIFT OF LISTENING.
Anybody can listen but knowing what she wants or what she mean's is another different thing. You can always ask her or probe her if you do not understand.She will not mind .You not only have to listen attentively but must also be seen to understand her feelings.
When she talks to you , look her in the eyes and not on her heaving chest.You may get motion sickness and nothing she said will be understood by your brain.
You cannot be seen reading the papers or watching T.V while listening.You got to be all ears without any distractions .
Many men don't really pay much attention or really listen when their wife speaks.They cannot give 100% to her.They need to force upon themselves to really listen like when they listen to the children speak.Wife too need that kind of attentions.
Sometimes , you cannot blame the men because some women ramble on too much and there are mountains of verbose and after sometime, you tend to just pretend to hear while your mind is thinking of other things or somewhere else.
THE GIFT OF AFFECTION
When you have it , you tend not to pay much attention to it. You take them for granted. It is only when someone is gone , you realized that you should have been much more affectionate or appreciate that person better.
You think life is forever but no one knows when we will die or how long we live. Everyday give hugs ,kisses and touch them because if suddenly they are gone, you wont be able to give anymore.
THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER
Life is very stressful for many, try to laugh and joke and this helps to reduce stress and make them more happy.Laughter is good medicine. Have friends or visit friends together and this would make life more interesting.
Your spouse and your friends are different .It is just like a multi vitamin.Your friends complement your diets. Too much of one kind is not good for your health.
THE GIFT OF A WRITTEN NOTE
Written notes are precious for they are everlasting and they can be read and reread .You should write those love notes more often and place them secretly in those places where she frequents.
A love letter would be great but many men don't write love letters after they are married .This is old fashion but in your own natural handwriting , it has a sentimental value.
THE GIFT OF A COMPLIMENT
Flattery opens many doors.Women loved to be flattered more than men. Do you feel good when someone compliments you? That's why you need to give more compliments than criticisms or complaints. Giving positive compliments makes the world a better living place.
THE GIFT OF A FAVOR
In the home, if you see something is not right or a job not done , you should handle it and don't complain even if it is her duty .
Offer to wash the dishes or mop the floor if you don't have maids. Don't be like a chauvanistic man and think this is below your manhood to mop floors or washed dishes or clothes.
Help to lightened her daily loads.You will show that you love her.Don't take her for granted. Learn to cook too for sometimes she may not be in the mood or unwell or need a rest .
THE GIFT OF SOLITUDE
When she wants to do her womanly things .Allow her the freedom and encourage her to have friends. Friends can make her feel better. Some man don't like their wife to mixed around because they will learn new things which can affect the family. Or they are afraid their wife will be up to no good or get conned by cassanova's .Many man then frowned upon their wife's activities outside the home.
THE GIFT OF A CHEERFUL DISPOSITION
A cheerful face is a happy face.Don't be affected by life's problems. There will always be problems in life.Life without problems is not challenging..Look at life's problems with a cheerful dispositions. Most problems are just molehills and not mountains as you perceived them.
Give all your worries and problems to Jesus if you cannot carry the burdens or if they are too heavy for you.
You may not afford to give her diamonds but these gifts are more precious than diamonds.They will ensure that your love will follow you to the end of the world with you ,even if you subsist on just plain bread and water.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Are you still looking for your ideal man ?
If you have found your ideal man , great! If you are still looking for your ideal one , I wish you all the best of luck.
Not all women are the same and they have different sets of values but they do have a set of common values which they want from a man.
He could be good looking but it is not very important if he has a great personality or a sense of humour. A man who understands and accepts her for who she is .He is kind and considerate.
If you have not discovered this ideal man then you only need to find the one who is your best friend and make him your partner in life. He may not be your ideal partner but he is the best you have got .
The most important criteria of an ideal man is the one who will love you unconditionally without asking anything in returns . That is the perfect love and you cannot asked for more.
When you are young, you will have a set of very high ideals for your man and it is impossible to find this man . As the years roll by , you will have to lower your expectations in order to snack any man.(The ideal list- http://allwomenstalk.com/my-idea-of-my-ideal-man/ )
The women of today are highly educated and in well paid jobs and can afford their own lifestyles. They may feel that marriage is not a necessity for now but there are times when you yearn for your own family .
When your parents are gone , you will find yourself all alone in this world . All the money and material things of this world cannot replace the feelings and the love of having a family.
For Rakovcky, a Real Man in Russia is only three things: he is good in bed, he has emotion and he has money. STOP!
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Not Having Enough Sex???
"Sex between a man and a woman can be absolutely wonderful - provided you get between the right man and the right woman." Woody Allen
A man thinks of sex while a woman thinks of shopping every few minutes. There lie the differences in the sexes and the reasons why it is men who feel that they do not get enough sex.
How do you rate your sex life?
1)Excellent
2)Good
3)Average
4)Poor
Sex is great , sex is enjoyable, yet many couples are found wanting for a better sex life.
It is the modern day lifestyle which contributed to the poor sex life. The men and in certain cases ,the women has to worked long and hard and by the time , s/he is home , s/he is utterly exhausted and only sleep is on their minds.
For the women, her work is not over after work as she has to cooked dinner or do the household chores or put the babies or children to sleep ,leaving her little time for romance.
They are both stressed out" from work outside and inside that they don't have enough energy's for sex .
Even if they have sex, they will be too tired to enjoyed it.It becomes a chore and not anymore a pleasure.Some may just fall asleep in the act or asked their partners to quickly finished his business.
If they have poor libido or erection problems they blamed work, money problems, children, family or other things but not about their lack of sleep.
The males may not realized it , they worked for long hours and they don't have enough sleep and this can affect their male libido's.
Chronic sleep deprivations, tiredness and age may trigger erection problems .When she is all steamy hot and he cannot come ,can be a very frustrating experience for his partner.
Some men may looked for aphrodisiacs like Ginseng, Tongkat Ali,
Misai kucing (local herbs),'Dong Guay' (Chinese herbs)with black chicken soup, Spanish fly to boost their libido's.These may not have much effects on their tired bodies.
This lack of sleep is triggering a rare and disturbing condition called sleep sex, or sexsomnia, when their libido is heightened and they initiate sex while asleep.
They are sleepwalking and making love without their awareness. Next morning when they woke up , they know nothing about it.
There was a recent rape case thrown out in UK based on this sexsomnia.
If you don't have sex regularly , you will have to count the cost
of not having enough sex..
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/article/0,6176,s1-23-57-1402-1,00.html
Get enough sleep ,plenty of exercise and good diet and you can increased your libido and make your wives looked young and saved on doctor's bills.
You may need Viagra if your partner is a very hot chick.Thanks to modern medicine.
The Joys & The Pitfalls Of Office Romance .
The office is not just a place for work only ,it can be a fertile ground for flourishing and exciting romances or it could be a battle ground of the sexes.
It could lead you up the road to a happy and holy matrimony if handled properly or lead you down to the slippery steps of a law court on sexual harassment charges and to ruins if you handled it wrongly.
We spend most of our daily active life working and with overtime because of today’s demanding jobs and economic considerations.
The long hours and the back breaking job, coupled with the goldfish bowl environment is a ripe recipe for dangerous liaisons and secret rendezvous and where the seeds of passion and amour germinates and blooms.
It could just be the innocuous accidental hand touching , casual chit chats, e-mails to and fro ,an innocent sweet smile or look , a silent admirer or venture into the darker side of midnight ,of stolen kisses ,cheating hearts ,one night stands or rapturous sex and romantic candle light dinners.
There is no way to stop office romance because we are only human and seek love and companionship whether you are married or single.
The fine and thin red line between friendship and love can be blurred and obscured sometimes.The nature of the job and the constant presence of the opposite sex can stoke the flame of love and romance.
Some company have rules governing office romance and you should be aware of them or you could run foul of the company laws and end up in the streets.You could end up losing both your job and your love.
Beware of the pitfalls of office romance.It could be a joy to you both but will bring sadness and pain and break many other
’s hearts.
credit and thanks to
http://management.about.com/cs/people/a/OfficeRomance.htm
http://edition.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/worklife/08/29/office.romance/index.html?imw=Y&iref=mpstoryemail
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/relationship/guide.html?in_article_id=353653&in_page_id=1861
http://www.chickjunk.com/2006/12/05/quick-quide-to-office-romances/
The beginning of the end of a relationship
If you are meant to be together, nothing will break you apart.The ties that binds you together will never break.
What is yours will be yours . What is not yours will be others.If you let it go and it comes back to you , it is yours. If it did not come back , then it is others
A storm does not appear out of the blue.It will build up slowly with ominous black clouds and increased velocity in the winds. The winds may blow it away or it could formed a perfect storm.
In any relationships, there will be dark clouds and thunderstorms.A fisherman will know when to put out to sea or stay at home.Knowing how to read the weather is a skill the fisherman must acquire or his life would be in great danger.
Similarly , in a relationship there will be minor and major storms which can break or strengthened that relationship.Like the fisherman , you must be able to read the weather reports and take the appropriate actions to prevent the loss of your boat or lives.
When everything is well, your relationship will run smoothly , fluid and frictionless like a well oiled machine.
When you have love, everything will be fine.For love covers a multitude of sins.When love flew out the window , you begin to see the many faults of your partner and everything he does will be unacceptable and unforgivable.
This 'love quotient' is a strange portion and if you have it , you will be O. K .If you lose it then you can say goodbye my love!
If you start to fight over little things , it is a signal that your relationship is starting to go down hill. If you can slow the descent with some good braking, you will live to survive.
If your brakes failed , it will sped downhill and smashed against some walls or drop down into the ravine.Your small fights will lead to bigger fights and it will tear apart your relationships.
If you start to think of others more than your partner, it is another sign that you don't love or like her anymore or like her less and less.If left unchecked, you can veer off the road ,going your separate ways.
Sex is another area where you can know if he is still interested in you .Sex is like a barometer of your love unless he has some physical or psychological problems and unable to perform.If s/he appears cold and disinterested , it can mean , there is something wrong or a pothole in your relationship highway.
Lastly , one of them may speak it out and want to move out .It signals a great dissatisfaction in the relationship and one of them wants to end it .S/he has no guts to pull out and need a confirmation or agreement from the other.
Life is never easy and full of challenges. Don't ignore those warning signs. Repair or replace quickly whatever is broken down and you will have a relationship that will last forever
A stitch in time saves nine…
credit and thanks to
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_know_if_your_relationship_is_over
How Do You Know If A Girl/Guy Likes You Or Not ?
Some experienced people may have the ability to know whether a girl/boy is interested in them or not. Some have got a keen sixth sense, while the majority will be in sixes and sevens.
How would you know if she is interested in you or not?You will have to use your eyes to observed her mannerisms and your gut feelings to feel her out.
This is the initial stage of a relationship and both will be wondering if the other person is interested in them or not .You are neither here nor there and that is what makes the adrenalin flows.
For a man , this is the first point in selecting his target or prey. If she is in his radar and response positively to his overtures, he will decide to start the chase.The hunt begins….
You could be frank and direct by posing that question but you will not get a truthful answer from her.Perhaps ,you may get some hints from her answer or read her body language.
A woman as well as a man can be sexually attracted to each other and they can get excited .They may react differently .
A man when he is excited and really interested in a girl will be tongue tied and a timid in her presence because he feared saying the wrong things to offend her. He is overtly sensitive and cannot speak coherently ..LOL!
He is afraid that if he blurted out his feelings to her , it maybe the end of the relationship.He should not be too hasty but to enjoy the friendship first.
She is more discerning than him and will know what you are thinking before you can even blurt it out.
When a woman is interested in a man , she would be braver and talk more and sound more chirpy and excited.If she has no interest, she will just talk business and end of the conversation.She will cast many glances in your directions.
If she moves closer to you and talk to you about a foot or less from you and looks into your eyes, it is a sign she likes you .She may accidentally or intentionally touch you or hope that accidents will happen.
If she likes you ,the doors will not be locked and hard to open,it will be an automatic door. It is like going through a Japanese paper wall. Ask and you shall be given.
credit and thanks to
http://dating.lovetoknow.com/How_do_You_Know_if_Your_Girlfriend_Really_Likes_You
Suggested readings
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Girl-Likes-You
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Girl-to-Like-You
http://becomeaplayer.com/bodylanguage.htm
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Is there such a thing as a ‘perfect ‘marriage?
When you were young or not so young , you would idealize your marriage to be perfect. You want everything to be perfect ,as perfect as can be.You see others from the outside and you think they make a perfect couple or have a perfect marriage not knowing that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage.
You may have beauty, money and power but these qualities don't make a perfect marriage. They can in fact ,be a liability for they can tear the marriage apart.There is no perfect man or woman .Be realistic and do not have unrealistic expectations.You can fantasize and dream but that is as far as you can go .
When you want to marry , open both eyes wide and after marriage, close one eye or both. After marriage when the euphoria have lifted, you will began to see the faults in each other which you did not see when you were busy romancing.
Your husband may not be like your parents who grant or pander to your every request.You may be like a princess in your own home but in your new own domain, your continued royalty behaviour maybe your downfall.
From a carefree princess, you have left your comfortable kingdom to venture into another magical make believe world .It is an illusion and soon you will be on the long road of debts,bickerings, irritations, diapers and drudgery's.This is not what you wanted or had in mind .You only thought or read of those love stories and those blithely beautiful imaginations.
How they were so happy to be in love and married.
Marriage is a complex union of two souls, body and spirit.Two people who are incompatible with each other, like a duck and a hen or a cat and a dog.
To make a marriage work , you will need to have patience,skill, tact, emotional and spiritual growth.Need God's help too...
You need to be perfect in understanding that neither of you can be perfect and that you and your spouse have to work at your marriage , give and take and to forgive the others transgressions.
What love means in a marriage .
Every one has their own preconceived ideas of what love is and should be.The meaning of love is different when you are in your teens, 20's,30's, 40's and 50's.
You think love is like a perpetual romance .When he is romancing you, the love is very ecstatic, dear and pleasant.This kind of love cannot survive in a marriage.This is love without responsibilities or accountabilities.He does not have to pay through his pocket to sustain you as you are still dependent on your parents.The realities have not set in yet.
When you have married , he will changed and so will you..Marriage is not a honeymoon forever.Not like those fairy tales where they lived happily ever after.It will end someday when the grim realities and the attrictions of daily living hit you in the eye and pocket.
You are all on your own. everything that you need will have to be purchased with your very own money and no more depending on everything from your parents. Things which you taken for granted when you live with your parents.
You won't be the same starry eyed youngster and adoring gal he married. The love you shared together before and now has a different meaning.Your teeny, weeny, yellow polka dot bikini love is now more complex and matured.
You thought you were in love with him but with his changed outlook , you wondered if you have loved and married the wrong guy.The doubts always persisting in the back of your mind.Your knight in shining armour now looks pretty jaded and not hot anymore.
You would also find that you don't feel his love anymore or non existent at all. You demanded , you criticized him and your tears flowed.He just cannot bring himself or is unable to show his love for you like before.There is something missing in the relationship.
If you want him to love you again , you must checked yourself and make yourself lovable again not for today , next week but for as long as u exist. You have to changed first before he can change,telling him to change while you won't is futile.Like pouring water into sandy ground.
Monday, December 1, 2008
IS MARRIAGE RELEVANT IN THIS AGE AND TIME ?
Why do we need to marry anyway? Is marriage redundant or still relevant in this age and time?
Why not just have test tube babies so that the race will continue to procreate and exist.?
Or women do not have the need to carry the babies for 9 months . Why not get someone ,maybe a cow or an artificial incubator to carry the baby till it is born¦.?This could be a likely scenario in the future but I don't think I will see it in my time.
In some Western societies, many just cohabit without going through the legal process of marriage .They have children and when they do not get along with each other, they just leave without any legal complications. They is no stigma or shame anymore.
Traditionally ,we marry because we want to carry on our lineage or family name and to have the joy of raising childrens and grandchildrens.In that way we get to being fulfilled our destiny as human beings.
To grow old alone without any children of one's own is like a book with no ending.
We marry because as men we don't have certain qualities which are found in women.That is why God made Eve from Adam so that she can be her helper .A women thus compensates and compliments what a man lacks.The first prototype is always inferior... LOL!
We marry also because when we are old we have our children to fall back on or children to help us and support us till death.
When our children were young we carry them and when we are old they will carry us but not where you want to go.
Posted by Laura
TO LOVE OR TO BE LOVED..?
We all want to be loved but life is full of paradox's. We end up marrying someone we loved more than he loved us over the one that loved us more but which we loved less.
Why is it like that? It is due to our self centreness. We looked for what our heart desires. The person whom we marry personifies all our dreams and fantasies.
Many will choose the one they loved more than the one who loved them more.It is a human trait. Others may loved us more but if we don't loved them , our hearts will never be contented.
There will be emptiness and yearnings for the one you loved.
That is why ,sometimes women marry rogue husbands. They are initially attracted to their bad guy image while the good guys are too wimpy for their taste.
Who do u prefer as your mate? The one you loved more or the one who loved you more ?
If it is after your own heart, then you would choose the one you loved more even though he may loved you less than you loved him. If you loved him more, you would do everything for him even if he does not respond in kind or in the same measure you gave him. I suppose that is human nature.Women are born care givers.
You would be satisfied to win his love ,it does not matter if you don't get back the same.You would hope that later in the future ,he would respond and return you back with interests.So u become the stoker, stoking his fire and making it burn like those wild bush fires.
If the man loves you more , and you love him less, then it has no meaning .You may get more advantage with this man but your heart will not receive the satisfaction.
Most gals would prefer the man they love more than he loves you, even if they have to pay a bigger price.
Agree or not?
Posted by Laura
FOR LOVE OR FOR MONEY ..?
Asked any woman if she will marry for love or for money, 90% would say ,they will marry for love.
To say that they will marry for money sounds mercenary and can reflect badly upon her as a gold digger . She marries him for the love of another kind..his money..LOL!
Woman are conditioned in their earlier years to look for a man who will take care of her for life.A life sentence for the man who married her.
A woman has many needs and her needs are far greater than a man. It is built into her system .First of all , she will have to bear children and to be the main caregiver .It is natural that she will want to have a comfortable home surroundings for her offspring. Her needs will be many and it would seemed insatiable to man.
Money alone is worthless unless it can buy you services or things. If you have plenty of money and lived in the desert,it will not bring you any advantage.
All of us have wants and needs.Our main needs are for food and shelter.If we have food and shelter , we will survive and not die.
Whereas our wants are endless but our means of getting them is limited by our abilities.We want to live a life of luxury , have everything the world can offer us. This is a materialistic world.
We have so many new inventions, gizmos and technology the world can offer us to enjoy unlike in our parents time when even if you have money , you do not have those new high tech electronic products.
Will you marry for love or for money? Everyone of us will have to decide for themselves.. No money no talk or no money no honey !
Love is the glue that holds two people together.Money , the lack of it or too much can cause frictions in a marriage.
I have seen couples who loved each other very much when they were struggling to survived and when they became well off, their marriage was strained and finally broke apart.
Being poor and loving is much better than being rich but empty..If you have no love for him, but only for his money, he will have the same thoughts .
Those on the outside ,want to get in ,while those on the inside want to get out.That is the paradox of life.
Your marriage becomes a marriage of convenience ,emptiness and meaningless.When you have alot of money , you want love, but the love you will get is just skin deep..finding real love is an elusive dream.
Posted by Laura
Are You A Good Lover?
Every man aspires to be a good lover to his partner.It takes time, practice and experience to know what your partner wants or dislikes.
If your partner is communicative and convey her feelings or needs to you,you will graduate faster. If you are left to explore on your own , you may never graduate from this field..LOL!
What makes a good lover? Everyone of us may not have the same wavelengths..One man’s meat maybe another man’s poison.
Are you generous and able to give as well as receive pleasure?
You cannot be serious if you are just lying underneath and multitasking about the other things while your partner is boinking away. You need to be proactive and take turns stimulating each other.
Are you able to talk openly about sex with your partner and share your desires as well as listen to hers?
I think this is a very difficult assignment for the women to express her views .It is simply that they don't have this mode in their system..keke!
It is no fun to tell and they rather hope the men will discover themselves ,what makes them tick and enjoy. The initiatives belongs to the men.
Most women think of sex as a reward or punishment for the men and are seldom adventurous except a few.
Do you enjoy sex?
If you don't enjoy sex , you cannot be a good lover. Sex is the pinnacle of your love.When he is joined with you , it is the moments of esctacy , where the two of you becomes one in soul ,body and spirits.
Being a good lover is not about being only good in bed but also being able to satisfy and make her happy in the other areas of her life.That is a very tall order..LOL!
Are you a good lover?
You can take a test from this site
http://quizfarm.com/test.php?q_id=240657
or
http://www.okcupid.com/tests/9363830099973879041/Are-you-a-good-lover
Posted by Laura
credit and thanks to
http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2006540004-2007290338,00.html
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Is Your Spouse having A Cyber Affair ?
Do you think a cyber affair is harmless? I think most women would rather
agree that a cyber affair is a no-no.
It is a dangerous precedent if they agree.Having a cyber affair is bad for
your marriage health and can destroy your marriage .
The person involved in a cyber affair may tell you it is a harmless affair
and he can switch off anytime when s/he wants.
They do not realize that they are dealing with the powerful emotional forces
which they have never experienced before.
It is like playing with the devil and the devil is a very crafty fella. He
will bait you till you fall into his trap.
A fire when small can easily be control but if it becomes a raging bush
fire, then your house will burn down.
If they do not take any preemptive steps, their spouse may fly away or lured
away by a raven.Crying would be useless by then as the bird has flown.
Your spouse will not tell you that he is having a cyber affair.Affairs are
always secret and that is the thrill.Stolen kisses are always sweeter.
There are many reasons why cyber affairs happen.It does not happen over
night.Affairs take time to develop and if you were too busy with work
inside and outside and did not take notice of his change in behaviour , you
have only yourself to blame.
There are signs which you can detect when you spouse is having a cyber
affair.All the tips from this link..
http://marriage.about.com/library/howto/htcyberaffair.htm
Once you have the proof, it is time to act to preserve your marriage. You
need to confront him .Don't ignore those red warning lights flashing.
If you go through too many red lights, your marriage might be in
jeopardy.Give him the summons and jail him if he does not pay.
Dont wait for one day when out of the blues, he suddenly ask you for a
divorce.You must confront the issue head on if you still love your spouse.
He is caught in the web of another she spider and he may need your help to
get out.It is easy to fall in but very difficult to quit.
Cyber affairs can happen to women too.Be vigilant!
Posted by Laura
credit and thanks to
http://marriage.about.com/library/howto/htcyberaffair.htm
http://www.50plus.com/display.cfm?libraryID=112&cabinetID=369&documentID=16798
Related topics
*Why Do People Cheat?*
http://health.yahoo.com/experts/sexualhealing/18851/why-do-people-cheat
I Did’nt Plan To Fall In Love-It Just happened !
A 36 year old married women with two kids dumped her husband of 38 for a 25 year old …It just happened !.
After 15 years together, their story came to an end. The Chinese say their fate(Yuen Fun toh kei) ended there.
It is nice to be young again in spirit though the body is marching against time. Love is beautiful and I hope their love will last..
When the heart is not there, whatever you do will be pointless. My sympathies to that guy. I hope he will find someone who will love him till eternity….Someday ,I hope she will not live to regret her decision.
It is even sadder when the man must leave his house and family and make way for her new lover.It is very tragic .
This man loved his wife too much and did not want to stand in her way to happiness.He even spend a large sum of money and endured the pains going through with a tatoo of her and the two kids on his back.All to no avail. Her love for him died in her heart and the new lover was all she could think off. Poor Bloke!
Definitely after 15 years with someone, the fires of love and ardour could have cooled down or extinguished.Life became too mundane and the sparks of love no more.
A totally unselfish man. Other men would just let her leave with her lover and good riddance to her…
Why did the man not fight off his rival to keep her ?Some women need to be fought over to prove the men’s love for them.
Things just dont happen if you dont allow them to happen. You are in the driver’s seat.
Posted by Laura
Credit and thanks to:-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=486319&in_page_id=1770
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- The road to eternity is never ending and as we travel on this journey through Earth, we should enjoy each day as it comes .It is not about who you are but what you can do to enrich others life. "To know God is love" blog was created on 29th. June 2009
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