What love means in a marriage .

Every one has their own preconceived ideas of what love is and should be.The meaning of love is different when you are in your teens, 20's,30's, 40's and 50's.

You think love is like a perpetual romance .When he is romancing you, the love is very ecstatic, dear and pleasant.This kind of love cannot survive in a marriage.This is love without responsibilities or accountabilities.He does not have to pay through his pocket to sustain you as you are still dependent on your parents.The realities have not set in yet.

When you have married , he will changed and so will you..Marriage is not a honeymoon forever.Not like those fairy tales where they lived happily ever after.It will end someday when the grim realities and the attrictions of daily living hit you in the eye and pocket.

You are all on your own. everything that you need will have to be purchased with your very own money and no more depending on everything from your parents. Things which you taken for granted when you live with your parents.

You won't be the same starry eyed youngster and adoring gal he married. The love you shared together before and now has a different meaning.Your teeny, weeny, yellow polka dot bikini love is now more complex and matured.

You thought you were in love with him but with his changed outlook , you wondered if you have loved and married the wrong guy.The doubts always persisting in the back of your mind.Your knight in shining armour now looks pretty jaded and not hot anymore.

You would also find that you don't feel his love anymore or non existent at all. You demanded , you criticized him and your tears flowed.He just cannot bring himself or is unable to show his love for you like before.There is something missing in the relationship.

If you want him to love you again , you must checked yourself and make yourself lovable again not for today , next week but for as long as u exist. You have to changed first before he can change,telling him to change while you won't is futile.Like pouring water into sandy ground.