Do You Fight And Argue Often?

No one is perfect except God!. To expect a marriage or relationship without any ‘kinks’ is like living in the realm of the dead because they don't talk back.

Everyone of us is a unique person and we each have our own thoughts and perspectives.We come from different backgrounds , education and experiences.

Differences of opinions are inevitable just as a man and a woman are different in all aspects and outlooks.


We should accept others views or a different perspective. In an accident , two people may describe what happened in a different way . It is wrong to say that one is right and the other is wrong.

Who is right and who is wrong is subjective. What is wrong for you maybe right for him. Thus ,you need to be more open minded that he holds a different view and that you should seek a compromise or agree to disagree and leave that topic and move on.

Most people like to tell others are wrong when they do not follow their views. Actually , it is better to tell that person that you disagree with his views, for you could be probably wrong .How can you be absolutely sure on everything ? There are times when you are wrong.

Let the other person find out the truth. It is wrong to ram the truth down people's throat or bang it on their heads.They have the right to accept or reject your views.Whether they accept your views or not , it does not matter as long as you hold what is true to yourself.

How you settle your differences will make your relationship more healthier and stronger or to the end of the world.

When you are in love , there are no issues as you can easily agree with your partner’s views.You are more accommodating and more agreeable even when all along you are known to be against that idea.

Love is perfect and it casts out all sins.Love see no imperfections for you are wearing a rose tinted glasses.

When grim realities strikes, couples will fight over many big or small issues .Smaller issues are easier to resolve as one has only to give way and everything will be settled and things will go back to normal.

It is better to settle those small issues as quickly as possible ,for if you hold those grudges or ill feelings and let it drag on for too long, it will be bad for your health and stomach.(You may get stomach ulcers.)

The Chinese proverb, “Fight at the top end of the bed, make peace at the lower end.”

If you must argue or fight, settled it before you get out of bed and begin the day.

Just as the Christian saying, “Let all your quarrels be settled before sundown.”

Learn where to end and stop all those arguments and move on. Accept and compromise those differences and implement those damage controls if the need arises and prevent more collateral damages.

A lot of couples fight and some fight a lot.It depends on whether you are married to a fighting fish ,mad cock or wild bull or your mate is a timid mouse or a spineless glob.

Most couples fight over major issues like money , sex and power in a marriage. These major issues are seldom resolved and they may argue everyday and both not budging from their positions.

The best thing to do is call a time up and just leave the problem by itself as it cannot be resolved anyway and find common grounds where both agree and you will have peace and tranquility in your home.

If you must fight, be direct to the point and not beat about the bush like most women do.They bring up old issues and other issues which has no bearings to do with the present case.

If you must speak to a man , don't give hints for they do not get it. Just speak it directly and they will be able to understand your problems.Call a spade a spade !

Understanding what bugs her can be a daunting task.It could be some little things which she asked you to do and you forgot about it .This little job which you thought unimportant could start a world war.

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suggested readings

Fighting Fair Evaluation Guide

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http://www.whydidimarryyouanyway.com/argue.html

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/how-to-fight-and-how-not-to

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