Good communication skills in marriage is essential.

Do not expect the men to be crystal ball readers or have telepathic abilities to read your mind. They are not X-Men and cannot fathom your inner thoughts.

It is vital that you can communicate your thoughts, feelings and desires to him and similarly understands what he is trying to tell you . This is easier said than done because men and women are not from the same world.

The man only thinks with one side of his brain and I do not know why they do not use the other side ,whereas woman thinks with both sides of her brain.

That is why she is able to multitask while he can only have a one track mind. He can only focus on one thing at a time .Anything more than that will cause a mishap. .

With this modern age , there are so many forms of communication equipments at our disposal, computer, emails, 3G phones, fax, SMS ,MSM , VMS, telephone.. etc . Yet, miscommunications , bad communications or the lack of communications is the leading cause of breakdowns in marriage.

The husband and wife misunderstood each other because they could not convey what they meant or their real intentions.
While technology has advanced by leaps and bounce, the communications between some married couples are still in the stone age.

When you get married, you begin life’s perilous journey with your partner and may God help you. That in the course of your journey , you do not encounter too many storms or the perfect storm, which can make or break your marriage asunder.

We were mostly left to our own devices and to groped in the dark alleys and learned from our own mistakes.It was like embarking on a long journey with an alien or someone whom you thought you knew very well and you made the best along the way.
It is a new journey of discovery for the both of you.The part of s/he you have never seen before.

Many of our misunderstandings stems from our lacked of a deeper knowledge and understanding of the opposite sex and the stereotyping of the other genders by the news media or society.

We were either brought up with the wrong ideas about each others sex or we formed our own wrong ideas watching from others or our own faulty and imperfect parent modal.

DAVID C. PACK said, "The role of the husband is to try to take the lead in proper communications with his wife. Many a case in a married family , it is the man that do not understand that woman do have a need to communicate with another adult . A two way traffic kind of communications."

Many men do not realize that women do have a need to talk and communicate.Some men do realize it but thinks women are being too ‘frivolous’ and sometimes bothering on the neurotic side.

The man do not see or appear to understand the perspective from the wife's side and further more, they have talked too much in the office and have no more wish or too tired to engage in any conversations with their wife. They have different expectations from each other due to their circumstances.

They wished to be left alone or in solitude. They come home from work , sit down and watched TV ,read the papers or appear to be busy with work, thereby have no opportunity to talk to their wives.

The husbands do not understand that their full time housewife has been in the house detentions with those cheeky little cute children or just facing those four empty walls and have a need to talk or chat to relief their frustrations .

Not getting the chance to chat with the husband , they will go and chat with those neighbours or any of their friends or by phone, MSM or Skype.

If a man wants to improve his marriage and make it last , he will have to give his wife some quality time .She has got needs too.

You don't have to ask her anything.She will be like those heavy laden water filled dark clouds, waiting to rain down upon your signal .

Just send one lightning signal from you and it will pour down instantly.For some, it may need alittle bit of coaxing before those constipated loads gets unleashed.

The man must also be very careful of the tones of his voice..Woman are great readers of tones,,Don't sound harsh ,loud or superior but tender , understanding and concerned.Their heart is like a mouse , easily frightened and scurry back into their nest.

The wife should encourage and opened up their husbands, use a can opener or a hammer and chisel to praised open their tongues which seems like glued to the bottom of their mouth.

Give him a light massage and he will appreciate it and will listened to you talk..He feels relaxed and will be in the mood to communicate with you.Share yourself with one another. Open up!

It is a serious mistake not to communicate in marriage. Do things together and you will find that you have more opportunities to talk and know more about each other.

However, I have seen couples fight and don't see eye to eye on many issues all the time but I don't know how they can still tolerate each other. This is more true in our father's generations.They are like kids who fight and then make up again till the next round .

If you don't communicate well, soon it will be winter and there will be an ice barrier between you two and the chasm will widened leading to silence is golden.

Your spouse may find you MIA even when you are at home and one of the partners may start to look outside of the marriage to satisfy her/his cravings..

Find some quality time where the two of you can be together undisturbed.This can perked up your marriage and make it strong..Don't bottled it up until it explodes.

Just show your care and concerned for the little things which meant a lot to her.The house is an extension of her personality . Truly , that's the way to her heart and soul.You will be speaking her language of love where she can understands.