Will you be a good dad ?

Being a dad is easy but being a good dad is rather a difficult task and it takes a lot of patience's, trials and errors to know how to be one. It is on the job training and you will grow wiser as time goes by.Whether you can become a good dad or not will depends on your outlook and your upbringings.

Are you a good father or do you intent to be one ?

You can be a good father if you put your heart and soul into it.Every father is not born but are made. No one knows what a father’s love is like until he becomes a father himself.

Fathers today are different from father’s of yester years. Fathers need to commit more, share and involve more in the upbringing of their children.

Gone are those days when they leave all the care giving to the mothers..Fathers now have to take an active part in their children’s life.

Whatever your opinions of your father is,he is trying his very best to be a good father to you in the way he learned from his father. He may not be perfect but he loved you all the same.

He is someone important in the family and yet he is like an enigma to us.He works and slogs his butt out to bring home the bacon to support the whole family.

Some father's role seems to be confined to just bringing back the bacon and nothing more. These fathers were the traditional types.

All they knew as a husband and father was to work and to support the family.Taking care of the kids were left entirely to his wife.She was given a free hand to do as she wished.He only dealt with the major issues when she could not handle them herself.

Many of us children in the older generations grew up without really knowing what our father's was like or having a close special rapport with him like what we have with our mother's.

Our mother was the sole caregiver and she tended to all our needs single handedly.Only when it was a big or major decision , she had to ask for the father's opinions.This the only time , he came into the picture .

As a result , having a father is like having no father.He became irrelevant to us.From morning till night ,six days a week , he is never seen and on weekends , he is just around for a few hours and then gone again.

When we were still sleeping , he had to leave for work at 5.30am and when he came back late at night after 9.00pm , we were already in Lala land.

This was my description of my late father.This situation was better than those absent fathers who had to work oversea's for a number of years.

He was not a bad father but he could have been a better father to us.I don’t blame him as he is not educated and comes from the traditional family type.It was the norm in his times.

Our minds were shaped by the way our mother's brought us up .Our father's had no hands in our upbringing except in a few families where the father's takes an active part in the family affairs.

When you become a father or mother, then you would really understand the problem of being a parent. You stand on the other spectrum of life.

What you did when you were young , now comes back in full circle. Your daughter will repay you back the same medicine and more of it which you did against your mother.

You shall reap what you sow with abundance..Those of you who are young and still unmarried, you should not stick knives or shoot arrows into your mom's heart.Sometimes silence is better when you are admonished .

You may try to be a good father by providing all our needs and be there always for your children .A father sacrifices everything for his children ,but sadly not many children returns back the favours.

A father in the olden times can raise 10 kids but in today’s environment, 10 kids cannot support the father.