Are you falling out of love ?

When you are just married, everything is so sweet and fragrant.It is the beginning of a new journey of hope ,great expectations and promises . You want to go out there to conquer the world , climb the highest mountain and live life to the fullest with your soul mate.

The real world is different from our imaginary world . It can be very cold , cruel and harsh and the attrictions of life can tear and wear one down. You will find that your love for him/her is not the same anymore .

Circumstance have changed and molded your new perceptions of life and your partner. Now, you see with a more matured, experience and cynical outlook.
The one whom you idolized and worshiped the ground s/he walks on does not glitter and shine anymore but appear jaded and faded.

Do you want to walk away or perform CPR, the kiss of life to revive the marriage?

Some marriages are in the ICU and fate will decide the outcome. It is difficult to rekindle or spark the fire again when it has been extinguished for a very long time.

If one is the air- conditioning and the other a deep freezer , blowing at each other,then the wall of ice that separates the two of you will grow thicker and stronger and your home will be in a perpetual winter.

If you want to save your marriage and to rekindle the love again, you will need to start a fire to thaw out that icy wall from your home. You need to care about each other more,to nurture your relationship and to love him/her again unconditionally.

To see him again through another's eye. To focus on his strength and positives. No one is perfect and do not have too high expectations of others.

Either one of you will have to change for the better to save the marriage. You cannot change others but only yourself.

If after all you have done and tried your very best and the patient cannot revive, then you will have to accept your fate and let him/her go.

If there is no more love and happiness and your union is broken down beyond repair, it is better to release each other and seek each others destiny.

Marriage is no bed of roses and you have to work at it.Marriage is a journey of a lifetime until death separates us. You need to look out for each other , help each other to fulfill their aspirations and to carry each other's burdens.

If you want love, you need to give love first. Sow more love and you will reap more love.

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