With the world's economy in a decline and depression on the doorsteps, many of us will have to re-examine our lifestyles and choose to go back to the basics.
We may have to cut off any excess fats and stay lean to survive this difficult period. Some of us may not have a choice but I give my respects and admiration's to this man .He chose to down size his lifestyle so that he could enjoy a better life with his family.
Peter Durose was a supermarket boss who made £250,000 per month excluding bonuses for Tesco and downsized for his own corner grocery shop and a much better family life .
Going back to the basics.The very type of grocery shops that those supermarkets are squeezing them out or make them redundant.
He chose the path of having less money but a more happier and meaningful family life.He switched from the fast lane to the slow lane and enjoy his new found freedom.He was his own boss and able to control his life and where he wanted to go .
Holding such a high position in an organization and getting highly paid is not without its price.You may have to pay a very high price for the fame or the money .
You will have no time for your family or loved ones.Even though you have a lot of money and can afford a lot of things which others cannot.
But having all those money but no life is not an ideal situation. One should seek a balance in life ,for life is not all about money . It is about sharing love and togetherness.
It is about the quality and the intangibles like love , kindness ,emotions and togetherness. You cannot put a price on those intangibles.
credit and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=488241&in_page_id=1879
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Going back to the basics.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
Plan To Live Or Live To Plan ?
Some people have plans while a majority will just exist and go where the winds blow.If you are destined to be great or rich , the roads will be paved with gold and precious stones.
If you are not meant to be rich , you cannot even collect those gold. right in front of you.You can look but cannot posses it.You may hold it temporarily but it will be taken away from you..
Do you always plan everything in your life or do you just plan to live? Or you can ask ,’ Do you eat to live or do you live to eat?’
A man without a plan is like a boat drifting aimlessly in the oceans. He will just follow the ocean currents . He flows with the currents in his life stream.Whereas a man with a plan knows where he wants to go and will usually achieved what he plans because he has an aim or target or directions.
Even if he shoots for the stars or moon and failed,he could still land somewhere in the space among the clouds ,between the Moon and the Earth.
Which group do you belong to ?Got a life plan? Get a life instead! said ANNA MOORE of the dailymail.uk.co.
We can make plans about our life's, careers, marriage, children and a host of other decisions but along the way , we may have to alter those plans to suit the prevailing conditions .
We need to be realistic and pragmatic that some of our plans maybe too lofty and idealistic due to our ignorance ,inexperienced and egoistical self importance. We cannot be too rigid about our plans.
If there is no fish , then prawns will do.If you plan and your plans matured and come into reality , then what ? Did you live a good life? Did you worked so hard for your plan that you do not know what is the meaning of life and life’s little pleasures.
Did you think that after you have achieved your plans , you can relaxed and enjoy life? By that time , you will be old and feeble to walk and even if you are very rich , it does not give you any meanings because life is all about the simple things you do everyday.
Rich or poor, you are given 24 hours a day and can only eat as much as you can.Will you plan for more or higher ideals and when will this end?It is like greed, the more you have , the more you want and it becomes a cycle in your life.It will only ends when you leave this world…
Learn to live and enjoy everyday and let God takes care of tomorrow…..We do not know when or how we will leave this Earth.You may plan but don't forget to live ,for life is precious and you will only live once and never twice.
Credit and thanks to:-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/you/article.html?in_article_id=481843&in_page_id=1908
Saturday, December 20, 2008
Should you announce to the world that you are a gay ?
Being gay is your own personal choice. There is no need to let others know what is your own personal sexual preferences.It does not give you any advantage if you announced it to the whole world but instead you maybe ostracized or treated with disdain or contempt. The reactions may differ from place to place.You may face cultural and religious persecutions or oppositions in some places.
Nobody will know that you are gay unless those who know your personal life or you live a gay life openly.
In many societies, it is frowned upon even though the society maybe modern or liberal. You may face religious bigots and those conservatives who may judged you and condemned you .
A gay teacher in Asia declared publicly to the whole world that he is a gay in his blog! You can imagine the reactions from the parents of the school. Many parents do not subscribe to his openness about his sexual preferences and are fearful that their children may follow him .
It is sheer folly to put one's job on the line.There is never knowing the impact and the reactions from the employers or authorities.
There is no necessity to confirm about what others think of them . By his actions , the people around him would know he is a confirmed gay.Whats the point ?
It would be better and wiser to be in circumspect about one’s sexual preferences.It can be a distinct disadvantage to let known your sexual preferences.
It can affect your promotions or the tenability of your job or how others view you through their high moral standards or judgments.They may not say it out publicly due to their Asian upbringings.
A large majority of the older folks may not be able to understand or have bias and prejudices about gays.
They have a lot of misconceptions of gay people. All those negative news about gays getting aids or spreading aids , being very promiscuous and preying on small children.
Times have changed but what has been ingrained in their minds has grown roots and it is very hard for them to change their mindsets over night .
The younger generations may not be a problem as they were not exposed to the negative publicity about gays in the earlier years and treat it as part of life.
Do those young minds fully understand those gay issues ? All their knowledge about gays could be passed on from their parents or learn from the gutters .
Teaching is a very professional job and a teacher should not be involved in any contentious personal issues which can cast aspersions to his/her characters.
Teachers should be above board for they can mould and influence those young minds.Many parents may fear their sons’ would become gay and this concern is real.
Some of these parents may pulled their children of of his class or call for his dismissal .Teachers should not bring anxieties or complex issues within the school and among the parents.
What do you gain by telling the world that you are gay ? There is no gains but you only get opinionated and bigoted views.
Our society is still rigid and old fashioned and gay issues will not find much common ground here or even in some modernized Western countries.
Let your WAGS recharge their batteries.
You cannot run on and on without recharging your batteries.We all need those days when we are down and need to recharge to be in a tip top condition.
I think after marriage , the girls should have a regular all girls nights out.Give them one or two days in a week for them, to let their hairs down and bitched whatever they want to their best buds.
It is good for their mental and physical health and your marriage health in particular. A happy wife is a happy home.
Give them a break from looking after the kids and the boredom of household drudgery. They really need to talk with their best buddies to catch up with the latest gossips, woman to woman talk which they cannot do with men.
Women do talk a lot of things which men don't venture there. Topics like body image, feminism,cellulite's, food ,shopping's, cheap sales , breast feedings,babies ,clothes , cosmetics and the list is endless. They can talk for hours and still find not enough time to talk..LOL!
They will be more happy and when they are happy , you will also be happy as her happiness rubs on you .A happy person is a healthy person.You rather be served by a happy and smiling wife than a sad and scowling face woman.
Some men don't like their wives to go out with their girl buddies for fear that those other women would teach their wives all the evil things about manipulating their man.
The advantage outweighs the disadvantages.
Be a sport ,because someday you also can have an all man’s party and don't have to always take her along with you. Fair and square.
You need to let your wives have some fun. Don't choke her life or think what is best for her. Let her have her freedom and enjoyment. She will come back recharged and will make your marriage life more meaningful and satisfied.
If you are living in a crime infested place, going out at night is dangerous,especially when you are a woman. This option may not be feasible to those who live in those high crime areas.
credit and thanks to
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/what-men-really-want-but-wont-tell-you
Things Only Woman Talk About
http://marksdarcy.bpweb.net/Woman.html
Monday, December 15, 2008
How not to create stress.
Don't seek troubles or troubles will seek you.Enjoy a stress free life and be at peace with your surroundings. How others think or do is not your prerogatives, leave them alone and let them do whatever they wish.
You should have an open mind and be able to accept other's perspective.Right or wrong is not for us to judge. It should not affect us but only them who thinks they are right and who thinks they know all the answers.
Every individual is different and may not think alike.We cannot force others to accept our way of thoughts.Everyone has their own power of reasoning and different levels of education and experiences.
Sometimes ,there are some friends who don't agree with your views and like to say you are wrong.It would be much better if they say,' I don't agree with you or maybe that is another perspective.'
What makes them think that they are right? There is no point in continuing that conversation when someone thinks like that. Period.
If we want to reduce stress in our life, we need to change our minds or our outlooks in how we relate to others and the situation.
If we think in the positive and constructive way , we will look at the situation in a calm and unruffled manner.Then we will have peace within our self.But if you think in the negative and destructive or hostile way , then you will get lots of stress.A small matter maybe blown out of proportions.
The power to minimize stress is within us.Whether you want that thing to affect our sanity and peace or to just treat it as a small matter and let it go.Words like, never mind, small matter only, will help us to reduce the stress.Don't let our ego's or emotions rule.
Stop worrying about everything. If anything would happen,it would happen and you cannot do anything about it.Quit worrying and let your mind be free. Give your worries to God.
When there are conflicts, try to solve the conflicts in a rational and unemotional way. It is not a win or lose situation. Who is right or wrong doesn't matter. Move on..
We should try to live a simple life and not complicate our daily thoughts with worthless and unnecessary worries about how others think of us or what to eat or wear.
Just go out there , be happy and enjoy the things you like to do.
Sunday, December 14, 2008
The road to matrimony and the potholes to avoid.
All roads lead to Rome but the wise will travel by the straight road or super highway as the bird flies rather than chose the long and winding road that leads to nowhere.
I don't think any girl would want to end up single if they can find the man of their dreams. Only those who cannot find their dream man would boast that single life is much better than being married.
Either way, right or wrong ,the women always win in the end .Which ever side she stands on , she will will say the right things to placate and soothe her soul.Women are their worst enemies.
Are you pushing 30's or 40's and still single?
Is time running out on your biological clock? You cannot for the life of you understands why you are still single , even though you have all the attributes of a beautiful and financially independent woman. All those qualities you think is desirable to attract men.
Read the tips given by this 40's women ,Shane Watson who gives a few good tips to race across the finish line in time.
You don't have to be a perfect '10' before you start to attract men.Don't be obsessed with your beauty so much that you become very vain and feel that some men may not matched your style or expectations.
You need to be yourself. When you feel yourself as being very beautiful , you tend to sell yourself to the highest bidder .When a women is young , she has a lot of capital and can afford to wait for the best man .She will wait and wait till she finds that all the best man has slipped through her and then she will lower her expectations as her age rises..
The one thing women can turn off men is their loose talk about what they are looking for in a man. Every single women has a shopping list for a man . You would let the man know what you like and dislike about the qualities you find in a man.
When a man who could be interested in you learns of your don't like list, it immediately puts them off chasing after you. It is like pouring cold water over them.
The thought of wanting to chase you becomes still born..Sometimes girls don't realize that. The girls are only joking but the man do take it seriously.
Imagine a scene where this man is secretly interested in a woman friend and then this woman blurted out in jest that she is looking for a very rich man as a husband .
WHAM! This man quickly retreats and forgets her. There goes her potential husband. This can backfire on her when he goes around to inform his friends about you as a gold digger.
You don't really meant what you said but the harm has been done and you are not even aware of the results of that joke. When it come to marriage and men , it is best not to disclose your list to any man friends. Just keep to yourself. Anyway, those in the list can change if you find the other good points about him.
Are you perfect?
No one is perfect and you are expecting to find a perfect husband. It is like groping for a needle in a haystack . If there is a near perfect man, you would not stand a chance as there will be other more beautiful and sexier woman available competing for him.
Do something differently for a change. Get a new make over and people will get to notice you .
If you are the 1990's model, then don't expect many to be interested. Try new things or go to different places for a change and not keep to the same routine every day and night for umpteen years. If you always swim in the same pond, then you only attract those same old boring fishes.
You may have to make new friends as your old friends who knows everything about you can be a dampener or can cramped your new style. What you do would be a secret as your friends wont know. You become free of their clutches.
You don't have to behave well in front of your friends for you can flirt outrageously with men. Flirting is a game. It can titillate your senses and it is much fun.
Pick one with the potential and then package them they way you want and DON’T expect them to arrive on your door steps in a perfect little package with a red ribbon.'
All men are like rough diamonds when you meet them . It is only when you get married to them that they become polished and shining like a real diamond. You have to polished them till they shine for you. That is why experienced men or married man have certain appeals.
Happy husband hunting !
Reference and thanks to :-
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2019863.ece
Saturday, December 13, 2008
Should you tell your partner all your problems ?
A woman give her all in a relationship and she expects the same back from the man.Unfortunately a man cannot give his all to her as he has to think of his career and has to balance her and career in his life.Generally, most women make this wrong assumption about men until they learn the truth .
There are pro's and con's for sharing all your problems with her. It will depend on the seriousness and gravity of the issues. If it is a major thing , then the man should tell her, otherwise he should just keep it to himself and not to burden her.
Men and women are different not only physically , but emotionally and psychologically. Many may not be aware of the differences and they think their partner should think like them.
If you are still not aware of this fact , then you should better sit up straight and take real notice and all ears when your wife is speaking.
Are you really listening ? Maybe she nags too much and your inner ears are closed without your realizing it .
When you were wooing her, you were all attentive and on all fours ready to do her bidding's upon her command.But strangely, after she got hitched to you, your mind seems not to functioned like before.
You have developed an auto immune mechanism that simply shuts down the system from reaching your brain ,when they detect nagging's.(What's that you are mumbling about dear? yak! yak!yak!)
Your external ears may be opened but your mind and heart are not in tuned with what she is saying or you are not receiving the message from her loud and clear. Got those little nasty rascal Gremlins in your system.
Women worries a lot and too much.If you tell them your daily problems, soon it will not have enough hard disk to store them .
Your problems are like viruses which duplicate and crowd out all the free spaces in her hard disk and she will have those problems etched on her face whenever you meet.
So sad, so sad!! You will make her aged faster and saddled her with your burdens.
Even small problems , can look like mountains to her.
While you just tell her and then forget about it and enjoy your daily chores as if nothing has happened.
She will be worrying every now and then and it will affect her moods for the whole day or even weeks .She may not eat or sleep well after you have made known your problems to her because of her worries.
Still think it is a good idea to unload all your rubbish into her bedroom?
Maybe, very big problem where you need her strength or support.Otherwise, better to go drown yourself with your buddies and keep your stress and problems away from the home sweet home,where your homely and beautiful wife is waiting for you.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
To live happily ever after....
According to the Chinese tradition, a man or a woman who is unmarried is considered a child even if s/he grows old. It is quite true because s/he does not know and understand what is the responsibility of a parent and will be less matured than a married man/woman
A guy will have no worries before marriage but after marriage, their worries will start and they become matured in their thinking's.While the woman worries about finding the right husband before marriage. This is an irony of life.
If you want to make your marriage like a fairy tale and live happily ever after, you will have to do certain things to turn her into a beautiful princess.
Make a spell and cast on her and turn her into a Stepford wife. Give her a big diamond as a surprise if you are loaded . If not ,go to the bazaar to buy her a cheap imitation Russian diamond.
So your ultra modern wife thinks this submissive thing is outdated and wants equality . If you want her to listen to you ,it is not difficult.
Love her to the hilt and she will surrender all to you.Woman are like that , they need to be conquered. You will become her boss or King and she will be like the sweet kitten .
After you have stolen her heart for safe keeping , you must take very good care of it. You need to respect her and always asked for her opinions first to make her feel like a V V I P.
If her views or plans are wiser than yours, you must shower her with lots of affections and praised her sky high.
Then she will feel more appreciated , understood, valued and smarter than you.
Then she will love you more and more. You must be wise enough and willing to seek Her Majesty's counsel .
Be more observant of your surroundings or your wife's appearances. Use your eyes to the fullest.Have a photographic memory before and after you left for work and when you come back from work.
Detect any new changes in your home or in her. You must be like Sherlock Holmes ,use a magnifying glass to detect the clues and evidence in your home.
If you see any changes in her or the house give your positive feed backs. Turn on your positive mind even if you don't like what you see.It is not what you like or don't like but what she likes and you pander to her.You must be of the same mind as hers.
Little things mean a lot to your wife. You showed that you still have much interest in her and your acknowledgment is very important to her mental health.
She feeds on those great comments which will make her day. You should realize that it will score a lot of Brownie points with her and at night , she will repay you back with interest.
If she cooked your favourite dish or tried something new , don't take her for granted, thank her and give biggie smiles. Thanks may not be enough ,if you don't smile and show all your crooked teeth.
If she bought a new dress, new perfume or new hairstyle and looks good or smells good,compliment her .She did it all for you and you should learn to appreciate her more.
Don't gripe about the cost to her or show you Ebeneezer face.Make sure she got available funds in her credit cards.Bite your tongue and howl in pain when she is only out of your sights and mind.
No matter how small an item may be to you, it may be very important to your wife that you notice and validate what she has done.
Don't underestimate the importance of those little ,little words of encouragements and praises.It means a lot to her.She will love you more for it.Don't just focus on yourself or your job. Leave your job in the office and concentrate on her when you are at home.
Just open your mouth a little and oil that tongue of yours .Don't forget to mention those golden three little words here and then and see with your eyes and it wont cost you a dime but the results is well worth the small efforts you put into those little words.
Don't just know how to eat and drink only.Your mother did not teach you how to say 'Thank you.'Surprise her with small presents or things which she like's ,to show your appreciations of what she has done for you.This shows that you really care and love her from head to toe.
A beautiful woman if wrongly treated in a marriage can look old and sad while a normal Jane can look like a princess beaming with joy and inner beauty if she is well treated .
If you can do all that , you will live happily ever after and if you failed, you will be turned into a toad.
Monday, December 8, 2008
The Mistress
No sane and rational woman would want to be his mistress if she can be his wife.Most woman would abhor the idea of being his mistress or go after a married man unless she has some hidden agenda.
Though they do not like venturing there, sometimes circumstances are beyond their controls. The men sweet talked them into it and they fell into their trap.She is a sucker for his empty promises which will never come to pass.Women are a gullible lot
Love can be blind and they become irrational and lose their sense of judgment. Thus begin a life of deceit, lies and secret rendezvous.
Initially, it maybe quite exciting but after sometime, the cat and mouse game can wear on your patience and you will get tired of it. You cannot be out in the open and forever you will have to hide your liaison.If you are discovered there will be disasterous consequences and it could either make or break for you.
Some woman do not have a choice or Hobson's choice ,as either they were tricked by the man or they allowed themselves to be maneuvered into this position.
Girls are now more highly educated and are working and fending for themselves.Many are working but many cannot achieve their aspirations of a better life just by their salaries alone.
They either acquired the good taste of life or see others of their kind who flaunt their wealth in their face.Their friends may also encouraged them to do the same.
They maybe hesitant at first due to ethical and moral considerations but economic and the good life drowned out their resistance and so join the crowd.
They want a better life, be able to afford nice beautiful and expensive clothes and accessories,be driven in those sleek sport cars or luxury cars,holidays in exotic places, dine in high class establishments and go partying in those high establishments.
With the guy shortage and her biological clock ticking furiously , the temptation to become a mistress can even becomes greater. She would have to take the chances and believed that she will be able to manipulate him to leave his wife.
Sadly, she is only delusional, for the men do not always leave the wife for the mistress.What they get is only empty promises and words but no actions.
Young and modern women of today have affairs with middle age married men who appears confident, suave and full of experiences. When love hits them , they just fall down into the whirlpool of love and be swept away, whatever resistance they offered will be futile.
The life of a mistress is short and one of misery as you will only enjoy a part of him whenever he is available. Like a dog feeding on crumbs thrown from the dinner table.
Most of the time , you will be lonely and pining for him ,like a statue waiting by the sea shore.
It can never be satisfying and your life will be ruined.Your life, mental health and career will be affected and not only yours, but you will also break up his family or the other woman
You will find that you have wasted your youth in a worthless pursuit which has no ending.The fruit looks succulent but its after taste is very bitter.
Suggested readings;-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1092737/As-Ramsays-lover-revels-notoriety-novelist-Kathy-Lette-talks-shame-mistress.html
Modern women - an unhappy lot ?
Women are complex human beings with many needs.Today , the modern,liberated and emancipated women are more unhappy than their mother's generations.
They have made much progress in their fight for equality with the men and as a result they have enjoyed their successes but along with it comes with a heavy price.
They are over worked, over tired, over stressed and over exhausted.There is no more juice left at the end of the day .They are only ordinary human beings and not a super woman.
Is it true that women are more unhappier than men?
It is not easy to satisfy a woman ,for they have high ideals,a perfectionist ,many insatiable wants and needs, more critical ,more competitive and more ambitious.
To buy one pair of shoes/dress/handbag, a woman may walk the whole shopping mall or all the shopping malls in the town before she is satisfied with one that she likes .
After much deliberations , she may not buy it at that instant and goes home and regret about it. She would be thinking of that item through out the day and week until either she gets it or someone else bought it .
Women of today has gained much freedom and independence and some are making more than the men. They have made an impact in every aspect of the society.
Women are redefining their roles in this new age.They are now equal and on par with the men ,though there are some bias systems that do not give them equal pay for equal work.There are still gender inequalities in some industries or sectors of the economy.
The traditional thinking of women only belonging in the home and kitchen does not apply anymore in this modern world.
Some women do have a choice to be a full time housewife or a working mum or the sole bread winner.They have more choices than men.
With this added on responsibilities of work and home, it is no wonder many women find themselves short changed.
They are now doing a man's job and at the same time a woman's responsibilities to the child and home. Their mothers only had to take care of the family and home .
They are financially helping their husband's burdens, but sadly many husbands do not help much with the house chores.With their wives working , the men can work less and relax more .
The men are happier, they don't have to foot the whole bill for the family and they can have some golf game with their buddies.
The demands from the work and the responsibilities of being a wife , mother and housekeeper becomes too heavy for her to shoulder.
Many tasks need to be done and she may not find the time nor the energy to complete them .With so many tasks still undone ,how could she feel happy?
She cannot relax and be happy. Her unhappiness may snowballed as the workload piled up.
She wants to conform to her ideals or to those around her but it is impossible to achieve single handedly.Her anxieties and worries grows and she becomes depressed.More women than men are depressed.
Whether she is married or single ,most women worry about their changing body image,physical attractiveness , their self esteem and are always not contented with what they have. They have to pander to their bodies unlike men .
The fashion industry is making their plight even worse with the new size '0′ outfits.Why don't the fashion designers use real persons?
Women have a longer 'to do list' and they cannot sit back and relax, they don't have the time to be happy..LOL!
She can be unhappy over many things, it could be her husband, the children , her in laws , her home , her boss, her friends and lastly herself.
The key to happiness is contentment and in the little things in life and not in having plenty of money, achievements or possessions.
If you want them to be happy , the men must give them tons of love , understandings and a pair of able hands to help lighten her workload.
credit and thanks to
http://www.aliciapatterson.org/APF0102/Scarf/Scarf.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=484134&in_page_id=1770
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=484355&in_page_id=1879
We're tired all the time, say 60 per cent of working mothers
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=484348&in_page_id=1770
Modern Day Marriage For Women Sucks!
Those on the outside wants to get in while those on the inside wants to get out.It is every girls wish to get married and start her own family but there is the dearth of available men and finding the right one is like looking for a needle in a haystack.
Some have given up all hope and concentrated on their careers until one day when they will discover that the world has moved on and did not wait for them.
If you are still single , take heart because there are more women remaining single than married.Eventually and hopefully many will marry in the end.
If you cannot find the right mate , no problems .You don't have to feel pressured to be married. If you are happy , stay that way.
Why modern marriage for women sucks?
During your mother’s generations , they only had to deal with child care and housework in exchange for financial security and a roof over their heads.
In this modern era, women have to work as hard or harder than a man and then still have to take care of the child and house works.
It is even worse when she has to foot the bills while the men just earn for their own keeps.Despite all her sacrifices and contributions, she gets plenty of poisonous vibes from the men and no appreciations or love or a helping hand.
That's what you get when you kiss and marry a jerk…..
Every women do want to get married and everyone of us need love and companionship.God made us that way. I am not trying to discourage marriage , maybe give some cheer to those who are still looking for their mates.
A woman is more discerning and critical when deciding a life partner.It is imbued in her system .Don't marry the first ‘jerk’ that comes along and you will regret later.
According to the New York Times , 51% of the women are living without a spouse. This percentage is sure to go higher as many women may find marriage or the men not measuring up to their expectations.
When the women were not working , they did not have very high expectations but when they entered the work force, they became over critical and had higher expectations of men.
More women are marrying later or living with unmarried partners or marriage is elusive to them. At the other end, women are living longer as widows and not remarrying.They enjoy the freedom and rediscover who they are.
Those who are married may not fare better as having a husband is just the same as being single with kids because the men are working oversea’s or out stations or in the military or in the institutions.
These are the absentee spouse. They are being married and tied down but not enjoying the fruits of a real marriage of togetherness.
Women had to work two shifts. They also work and then had to take care of the kids and and the house works .Even if the men helped them , they still have to do the major part of the jobs.They cannot trust the men from doing the job properly .
If they marry the men about their age, there is a maturity gap.Those men are inexperienced and less matured and they do not know how to treat their wives.
They have this ‘Peter Pan syndrome.’ (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Pan_syndrome ) They are forever kids and don't grow up and are narcissistic .They love themselves more than they love others. Some of them still need their mothers.
Today , women don't have to depend anymore on the men like their mother’s generations.The man’s traditional contributions in marriage becomes irrelevant as the women also take home a cheque and sometimes their cheques are bigger than the man’s. The men are not needed and becomes unwanted.
The new women has arrived but the institutions of marriage and the men are still the same.They have not changed . If they want to marry , they should not go shopping for the perfect mate.It is a rare commodity .
credit and thanks to
What is Peter Pan Syndrome?
http://www.evanbailyn.com/index.php/article/what_is_peter_pan_syndrome/
http://www.glennsacks.com/census_shows_majority.htm
Suggested readings:-
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/01/16/us/16census.html?ex=1326603600&en=8b61820a6c4712e5&ei=5090&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Women are like apples.
Women are like apples on trees.The best ones are at the top of the tree or the good ones are already being plucked and taken. How you would see your life in the distant future would depends on whether you are still on that apple tree or that you are in somebody's warm and comfortable abode.
You may rationalize and think that most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.
So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in
reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to
come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top
of the tree.
However,those apples on top of the tree is different Their tree's grow up to the sky like Jack and the bean stalk. You cannot really blame the men when they have to climb up all the way to the sky to pluck an apple.
Only giants or those who have the resources will be able to climb that high for that apple.Either they will have to come down lower or they will enjoy the scenic landscape from that height.
The good apples are not necessary at the top of the tree.The good apples could be anywhere on the tree.Usually those near the main trunks are better because they received more nourishment's than those further out in the smaller branches.
Those good apples are too high and many men dare not try because the ladder is not high enough or because the branches are too small and may not support a man's weight. They may fall down and hurt themselves just for one apple.It is not worth the risk..
Those good apples high up may wait and wait and never be plucked and then be rotten and fall down .Those high apples should not looked down on those lower apples or those on the ground.
Life is not about working 7/24 but to lead a happy and fulfilled life.
Sunday, November 30, 2008
I Did’nt Plan To Fall In Love-It Just happened !
A 36 year old married women with two kids dumped her husband of 38 for a 25 year old …It just happened !.
After 15 years together, their story came to an end. The Chinese say their fate(Yuen Fun toh kei) ended there.
It is nice to be young again in spirit though the body is marching against time. Love is beautiful and I hope their love will last..
When the heart is not there, whatever you do will be pointless. My sympathies to that guy. I hope he will find someone who will love him till eternity….Someday ,I hope she will not live to regret her decision.
It is even sadder when the man must leave his house and family and make way for her new lover.It is very tragic .
This man loved his wife too much and did not want to stand in her way to happiness.He even spend a large sum of money and endured the pains going through with a tatoo of her and the two kids on his back.All to no avail. Her love for him died in her heart and the new lover was all she could think off. Poor Bloke!
Definitely after 15 years with someone, the fires of love and ardour could have cooled down or extinguished.Life became too mundane and the sparks of love no more.
A totally unselfish man. Other men would just let her leave with her lover and good riddance to her…
Why did the man not fight off his rival to keep her ?Some women need to be fought over to prove the men’s love for them.
Things just dont happen if you dont allow them to happen. You are in the driver’s seat.
Posted by Laura
Credit and thanks to:-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=486319&in_page_id=1770
Why Men Dont Prefer Women High Flyers ?
Most women are brought up by the socio economic system to look for a husband who will earn higher than them and academically better qualified than them .
It is deeply ingrained in them to marry upwards. Women are more discerning about their mates and it is they that decides if the relationship can progress after the first ‘hello’ stage.
She would have no interest in a man if he earns less than her or academically lower than her.She is looking for a mate who is stronger emotionally and financially better than her.
She needs someone who can take good care of her and her children.A man may marry a young thing and a sex object while a women would not marry a man just for the sake of marriage and who would follow her like a kept poodle.
The modern women have achieved success in many fields but as they climbed higher in the social strata, they found that there were a shortage of qualified available men for them to choose from and as a result , many remained single .
Inorder for them to find a man , some had no choice but to hide their achievements and their incomes for fear of intimidating the men.
I think , the real reason why some of the high flying women cannot find a man is their character and attitude towards men.
They are not able to accept the traditional womens roles in the soceity anymore .These highly educated , emancipated, liberal and modern women have redefined the womens new role.
Compare them to those secretaries and clerks , they really know how to treat a man and know their places.
There are some high flying women who can juggle a career, family and home ,for women can multitask but it can place a greater strain on her resources.
There are some women who married down and have a happy life..Some men are able to accept that their wife are smarter and earn more than them. It is not a problem to them.
It is a dilemma for many career women , a career or the upbringing of the children.
Credit and thanks to;-
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/
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- The road to eternity is never ending and as we travel on this journey through Earth, we should enjoy each day as it comes .It is not about who you are but what you can do to enrich others life. "To know God is love" blog was created on 29th. June 2009
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