Is your mum over the top ,flying like a helicopter hovering above you where ever you are ? Maybe it is not a helicopter but a UFO a.k.a invisible flying saucer!..LOL!
Is your mum too over involved with your life and does not allow you any freedom to make your own decisions pertaining to your clothes , taste, friends and interests.She is too strict and imposed her out dated and narrow minded views and thinks she knows whats best for you ?That is what all mothers think and you have no rights to speak your mind..
If you have such a mum , who controls every facets of your life , it can be very depressing and distressing .You will have to wait till you are 18 ,before you can escape from your prison environment..LOL!
Most mothers are loving and they want the best for their children.They will groom the children to be independent as they grow up.It is a learning curve for the mothers and children.
Some mothers have no experience raising kids .Whatever experiences they had , they learned and observed from their mothers .Some mothers come from a pushy and restrictive backgrounds and they perpetuate the same regime to their kids.
We should let our children explore their world and encourage them to discover who they are and just let them be kids .
It is a stage everyone goes through. We cannot rush them through childhood into adulthood. Childhood is a time when they will enjoy and mould them into a better person.It is where his foundations are laid.
If we are too attached or too involved with everything in his life, we will make him too dependant on us and he will not be able to grow up and make his own decisions. We should let them learn from their own mistakes.
Sometimes what the mothers do for their kids is not what the children’s wish but rather for her own failed aspirations and ambitions.
One mother who never had any education send her daughter oversea’s to get a degree .When her daughter came back and much wiser , asked her mum ,”Why did she put her through the stress and pressures to obtained an external degree?”
Her daughter was too young to understand at that time.The mother may have achieved her aim of getting her daughter an external degree and she is proud to tell her sibilins that she too have a graduate in the family.
No doubt, her daughter got a degree but at what cost ? What would happen if she flunked?I dread to think of the results.
There are some parents who put so much stress and pressures on the kids to perform well,or controlled their lifes , that quite a number have ended in the mental asylums or become schizophrenics.They may have anxieties or depressions, drug abuse or pushed them over the cliff.
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