Awakening your sexuality

This is a great book by Stephanie S. Covington ,written specifically for women to understand who they are , their capabilities and the mysteries of life as seen from a woman's perspective.

The book validates and reaffirms the truth about women and challenges your beliefs and open up an entirely new level of understanding.

Awakening your sexuality is the process of becoming more aware of your potentials,your emotional needs ,your body's feelings,the truth and the lies about men,sex and experiencing the fullness of life.

In certain traditional and religious society, sex is only for procreation and not for pleasure. Many women raised on fundamental faiths, feel shame and guilt about their sex lives. There are many don't do this and that.Don't touch yourself down there. Don't have sex before marriage.Don't fall in love with own sex.

You can choose to begin now or muddle along in life with all those half truths or lies perpetuated by the patriarchal society where women are nothing more than a whore ,baby making factory or belongs in the kitchen.

How well do you know your own sexual self ?

We are supposed to be competent and to like it but we are supposed not to know anything about it .All those physical and emotional messages get mixed up and those conflicting signals are confusing us.We don't know if we are doing the right or wrong thing.

We all grow up with our own limited beliefs and assumptions about our bodies, sex, erotic urges and sexual capacity for pleasure.The sex education in school is inadequate and the knowledge we pick up from our parents , friends, internet and the gutter may give us a wrong picture. We sometimes feel guilty or ashamed of our gutter knowledge and remain in ignorant bliss.

This has resulted in holding us back from enjoying life to the fullest and exploring our sensuality .We should embrace the new openness about sex and awaken the child in us and let it mature into an adult.



Reference and thanks to :-

http://books.google.com/books?id=yD_zMuW2JywC&pg=PA30&lpg=PA30&dq=men+who+marry+innocent+inexperienced+woman&source=bl&ots=D88llfI2U-&sig=dVj0niCurYZ8RjTYkebVAhNlvxY&hl=en#PPP1,M1

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When is the right time to sleep with a woman?

When she is willing , she is hot and she is asking for it.
For that to happen, you will need to woo her , shower her with your love, affections and attentions and be at the right place and at the right time.

When she loves you more than you love her,it will be like a breeze. She will open all her doors for you to walk into her parlour.The only obstacle is yourself. Do you want to take her as your lifelong partner or will you just wanna have fun with her ?

Beware that she has her own plans and aspirations about you too.She may set a trap for you and you will be caught and then domesticated..LOL!

When do you want sex with her depends on your strong or weak religious beliefs, your moral upbringings and your personal beliefs. She may have her own sets of rules too.

If she is on the same wave length as you , then things will move faster and you will know where you stand with regards to each other. You do not have to grope in the dark about her position.

Not all things are black and white and the situations can change if you can convince her with your loves, affections and commitments.Your goal post and hers can shift in the course of your relationships.

Today's modern females are a liberated and emancipated lot and think of sex as a fun and enjoyable experience.Those living in big metropolitan cities are more liberal and open minded about sex. As long as they practice safe sex , everything goes.

They have no strings attached sex, one night stands and just meet up with some interesting guys to have a good f*ck and nothing more. They enjoy each other until somebody more interesting comes into their life.

For the normal and average couple who is in love with each other, it is better to wait until you are very sure of the love and commitment towards each other.They need to take their relationship to a higher level.When you have reached that level, your minds should think alike.It can be uncanny to see and think alike. Maybe , it is your spirit and her spirit in tune and communicating with each other.

When you are at the planning stage to get married or engaged to each other, she would feel more secure and may not have any objections to sleeping together.

There should not be any pressures on her. It should come naturally and usually when one is intoxicated with alcohol. Alcohol can loosen the inhibitions .When she is ready , she may give you hints but men being obtuse will not get to feel it and hence she will have to lead him softly down the path to the garden of Eden. She feels she has blossomed into a beautiful flower and is ripe to let him smell the sweet scents and enjoy the fragrance.

You simply cannot verbalize it between the two of you. Sex is like watching a silent movie. You have to read her body signals and to test each other if she is ready for it or not or whether you have both reached that point of no return...LOL!



Reference and thanks to ;-

http://www.kissmegoodnight.com/nice-guys/when-to-sleep-with-girl.shtml

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Is having sex too early , good or bad ?

Today , you will find that the teens are engaging in sex at a very early age. The younger generations may not see eye to eye with the older generations about sex.

Perceptions have changed and more and more are doing it without any conscience about the morality or impropriety because it has become the norm in the new millennium.

People who start having sex at a younger age appear to be at greater risk of developing sexual health problems later in life.

For the men , it could be erectile dysfunction, difficulty in maintaining an erection or orgasm.

On the average, most teens have sex at around 15 to 18 .Those who had sex at 14 and below were early starters.

Those who started relatively young would have many sexual partners and run the risk of those sexually transmitted diseases (STD)

The computer age, sexual exploitations of those media and the widespread availability of porn in the internet and DVD's are the major causes in the sexual adventurism of the young.

After getting together for a few days or some on their first date,they are doing it on a regular basis without any thoughts about their future.They are too young and immature to grasp the meaning of life and cannot even support themselves financially and must still depend on their parents help.

It is only a matter of time when they get pregnant or acquired STD's and then their world will fall apart. Will they decide to keep the baby or to abort. Such a big decision can be catastrophic to the child and to the parents.

Having the baby can keep the mother off from school or delay her educational process. Choosing abortion would end a young and innocent life.Abortions can have deep psychological and mental effects to her future well being. They are caught between the rock and the deep blue sea.

Their bodies may have matured physically but mentally , they are still kids and are not aware of the consequences from a mental , emotional and psychological perspective.

Generally, most of them do not know much about STD's or conception. They may learn some from the internet or from the gutters about sex.

They learn the hard way, when they get pregnant or have those STD"s. They do not practice safe sex or are unaware of how to protect themselves from those STD's or pregnancy.

Sex may have different connotations to different people. To me , sex is the height of one's love and affections towards each other . There is the emotional and mental relationship which brings two people closer together , a deep commitment like a marriage .Today , the term 'casual sex' is very common. There are f*ck buddies or friends with benefits (FWB)

If a relationship is not on a strong footing, sex may alter the equations. Sex can destroy a great friendship because you would view your friend in another light. You cannot be mere friends or a platonic friend anymore.

It is definitely bad if they are too young to understand the real meaning why people have sex , it's purpose and the responsibilities it entails.

"If we are only friends, why do you kiss me.....?"

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Women and men are equals in the new age.

In the Victorian era and in the present, there are some societies which suppresses woman's right to equal opportunities in every field.They treat women as nothing more than a baby making factory or to serve the men and their needs.

Women are not allowed to work in certain fields because it is considered dangerous or inappropriate for them.

It is not that women are lacking in intelligence but men are afraid that they would be irrelevant if they let women compete on the same foothold.

Why do many people still believed that men and women are not equal?
Not equal in what sense?

Women may not have the physical strength of a man but if she is given the right trainings, her strength can increase like a man.

Most government are run by the men and they perpetuate the system where the women are not given the liberty and the opportunities that are enjoyed by the men.

Women have been stereotype to be the weaker sex and second class citizens by men and perpetuated through the ages.

There is a difference between men and women and it is only biological differences.Period.

Woman are made unequal by men because of social, economic and political factors. If you allow women the same opportunities for women to developed their skills and knowledge like in the US, in education, they excelled much better than man.

This shows that women are also intelligent and have brains which sometimes is better developed than males. It has been scientifically proven that woman's brains are bigger and more developed.

Men are constantly threatened by the ever presence of women in fields that was once a domain of men .Women are no more restricted to be just making babies or just cooks in the kitchen.
Women can do multitasking while men can only do single task at a time.

In the educational fields , women scores highly in exams and in the universities, women make up almost 60% of the enrollments in Malaysia.It is the brains that matters.If you have the intelligence , you are able to think and do many things.Men and women are equal in this field.

Men maybe stronger because of their biological make up. Women can also be strong if they wanted too.Look at those muscle women who have bodies like the Terminator.Woman prefers to be more feminine or this was the mould ,men would want their women to be in.

Women also live longer than men .Does it not tell you that woman's body are stronger and more lasting than man's body,even though they have to give birth which men cannot.

Who is the fragile sex? It is the Men. Don't be surprised.!

Witness some large countries like the Philippines and once Indonesia which was run by a woman President. It is because a woman can do a better job than them.

One day the US will also have a woman president in the not so soon future.
In the US, women have become fighter pilots ,astronauts and goes into combats in Iraq. Can you still say that there is inequality and that women are unequal to men?

There are certain spheres where men and women excelled in.They are well balanced and complement each other and women are equal and sometimes more equal than men.

Even in your house, your wife maybe better than you in certain spheres. She can do much better than you in areas like cooking ,house maintaining,taking care of children,.

Man want’s to subjugate , controlled and ruled woman as their slaves .

Some society treat women just like a baby making machine and nothing else. What a depraved society and a great loss to the nation.

Men and women may be different from the physical aspects but they are equal and they complement each other .To deny women their rights is gross violations of humanity.It is an oppression of women and the perpetuation of the male’s superiority myth in a patriarchal society.

God made men and women equal and to use scriptures to put down women is fundamentally incorrect. Scriptures were appropriate for that culture at that time and at that particular church and not prescriptive for all time.

Galatains 3:27-29:

“for all or you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.”



Suggested readings ;-

http://struggleswithfaith.wordpress.com/2007/10/25/men-and-women-not-equal-biblical-analysis-part-2/

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