Everyone of us loves compliments especially women . They love been complimented upon and will never get enough of it. The more the better for it reveals and reinforces the truth about her.
Some men take their wives for granted and seldom compliment them or are not generous with it. It is inexpensive and will not cost them anything and some men find it difficult to compliment them but are very liberal with their criticisms of their WAGS.
The men simply do not understand the power of compliments .Perhaps
it could be that they seldom receive any compliments and hence they do not know how to dish it out by the bucketful.
Since we know that women are different from men , they are seeking for validations of their existence and that their decisions are right. Generally , most women have low self esteem and confidence. The women are in a habit of seeking opinions from others.
If you want to make her happy and contented , you will need to praise her and give more compliments and don't criticize her.
In the Chinese culture , whenever someone gives them a compliment,they tend to downplay the compliments and it seemed O.K because we appear to be modest about it.
If you do not do that , it may appear that you are proud and a show off. This behavior can be baffling to the Westerners. They would just acknowledge it and say a simple thank you .
Anyway, the compliment is given and the giver does not take to heart what is said in returned .A compliment is given with an open heart and mind.It depends on how close you are to that person.
Compliments if given genuinely will always make the recipient happy and they will try to find something nice to say back in return.It's a two way traffic. Some of them give compliments in order to fish for some compliments in return.
Always try to give praises and compliments to your wife and kids to make them feel loved and happy.Many parents only know how to criticize their kids and seldom praise them.
Praise and compliment more and see the results.
Suggested readings,
http://ezinearticles.com/?Your-Successful-Marriage-3-Easy-Tips-To-Master-The-Art-Of-Compliment-Giving&id=1052916
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
A simple compliment will go a long way .
Do you criticize in the right way ?
It is easy to criticize others for any fools can do that . You do not need a degree to criticize others. Your criticisms may build up or tear down a person. Learning how to criticize is an art.
There are two types of criticisms, constructive and negative.Constructive criticism is offering another valid alternative way in a friendly and polite manner whereas negative criticism is more confrontational and the receiver can be put into a defensive position or a flame war could start .
Negative criticisms is pulling another person down, destroying him or belittling him.
In constructive criticisms we are not criticizing the person personally but only on his work or methods.Many women can take it personally when criticized. You have to be careful if you want to criticize your mate or the female gender.
Some people are quite sensitive to criticisms and even if you offer constructive criticisms, they will still treat you like an enemy and remember you for it.
If the criticism is given in a constructive way ,then it is easier to accept.We should strive to only offer constructive criticisms and not criticize just for the sake of criticizing.
How you word it is very important. Some people like to be blunt ,while others prefer to be more diplomatic.It depends on your level of friendship with each other.
Any fool can be a critic because many people know how to eat but not many know how to cook.It is ridiculous to criticize the work of others when he does not distinguish himself by his own performance.It is easy to criticize a person but difficult to appreciate him.
We should adopt an open attitude to criticisms.In this way ,we may achieve greater personal development and help uncover any blind spots.A second opinion is always good.
Being criticized is unavoidable.Whether you are good or bad, you will received criticisms because people have too high an expectations. You will always be judged fairly or unfairly.
Live with it,take what is good and spit out the bad.
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