Suzie1318: sexuality

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Women are perplexed why men act the way they do ?

In this new age of sexual freedom, the notion of sexual equality have different meanings to both men and women. Many women are painfully unaware that man's sexuality is different from woman.

They grow up thinking that men should think the same way as they do . This is a grave mistake and the sooner they realize the differences, the better they will understand the men.

Men can compartmentalize sex from love and they can have sex devoid of love. They can have sex with anything without any feelings or emotions.

It is like an animal urge which they just do it for the excitements and the release of their sexual tensions due to the build up of those male hormones, testosterone.Those hormones cause them to think of sex every few minutes.

Women think of love,romance, relationships and emotional commitments as more important than sex while the men think of sex first even if they do not declare it openly.

For the men , sex is divorced from relationships and feelings.All their actions point to one direction . How soon will he get to sleep with her? Some men need sex to sustain the relationship or they will drift away. Some women would offer sex in exchange for their love and attentions . Those men often may have a variety of partners or they love to screw around with others. Why would they think of commitment to marriage when they can enjoy now?

In the past, a man needs to marry in order to have sex. Premarital sex was a sin . Today , many women are engaged in premarital and extra marital sex. Sex is easily available and the men have no inclinations to get married and shoulder the responsibilities of a married life. They can have the cake and eat it.

In the end , she sells herself short and they are separated because she is not satisfied by the non commitment of those men.The men are drinking free milk without having to pay for it.

She wants sex to be a part of the relationship but he wants sex just for the enjoyment alone without those accompaniments like affections ,cuddling, caring and verbal intimacies.

She cannot comprehends the man's sexual drives and why they do not need the same thing as women do in order to enjoy a sexual relationship.

Reference and thanks to :-

http://books.google.com/books?id=BfmuYfz57-8C&pg=PA98&lpg=PA98&dq=Men+do+not+marry+women+like+these&source=bl&ots=rS-ta1N0cd&sig=UQe8OK1B3A6u3Pq77aHupU7LhMg&hl=en&ei=L9wnSvTUC8yAkQXR3fjoDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2#PPA11,M1

Awakening your sexuality

This is a great book by Stephanie S. Covington ,written specifically for women to understand who they are , their capabilities and the mysteries of life as seen from a woman's perspective.

The book validates and reaffirms the truth about women and challenges your beliefs and open up an entirely new level of understanding.

Awakening your sexuality is the process of becoming more aware of your potentials,your emotional needs ,your body's feelings,the truth and the lies about men,sex and experiencing the fullness of life.

In certain traditional and religious society, sex is only for procreation and not for pleasure. Many women raised on fundamental faiths, feel shame and guilt about their sex lives. There are many don't do this and that.Don't touch yourself down there. Don't have sex before marriage.Don't fall in love with own sex.

You can choose to begin now or muddle along in life with all those half truths or lies perpetuated by the patriarchal society where women are nothing more than a whore ,baby making factory or belongs in the kitchen.

How well do you know your own sexual self ?

We are supposed to be competent and to like it but we are supposed not to know anything about it .All those physical and emotional messages get mixed up and those conflicting signals are confusing us.We don't know if we are doing the right or wrong thing.

We all grow up with our own limited beliefs and assumptions about our bodies, sex, erotic urges and sexual capacity for pleasure.The sex education in school is inadequate and the knowledge we pick up from our parents , friends, internet and the gutter may give us a wrong picture. We sometimes feel guilty or ashamed of our gutter knowledge and remain in ignorant bliss.

This has resulted in holding us back from enjoying life to the fullest and exploring our sensuality .We should embrace the new openness about sex and awaken the child in us and let it mature into an adult.

Reference and thanks to :-

http://books.google.com/books?id=yD_zMuW2JywC&pg=PA30&lpg=PA30&dq=men+who+marry+innocent+inexperienced+woman&source=bl&ots=D88llfI2U-&sig=dVj0niCurYZ8RjTYkebVAhNlvxY&hl=en#PPP1,M1