Suzie1318: problems

Monday, December 15, 2008

How not to create stress.

Don't seek troubles or troubles will seek you.Enjoy a stress free life and be at peace with your surroundings. How others think or do is not your prerogatives, leave them alone and let them do whatever they wish.

You should have an open mind and be able to accept other's perspective.Right or wrong is not for us to judge. It should not affect us but only them who thinks they are right and who thinks they know all the answers.

Every individual is different and may not think alike.We cannot force others to accept our way of thoughts.Everyone has their own power of reasoning and different levels of education and experiences.

Sometimes ,there are some friends who don't agree with your views and like to say you are wrong.It would be much better if they say,' I don't agree with you or maybe that is another perspective.'

What makes them think that they are right? There is no point in continuing that conversation when someone thinks like that. Period.

If we want to reduce stress in our life, we need to change our minds or our outlooks in how we relate to others and the situation.

If we think in the positive and constructive way , we will look at the situation in a calm and unruffled manner.Then we will have peace within our self.But if you think in the negative and destructive or hostile way , then you will get lots of stress.A small matter maybe blown out of proportions.

The power to minimize stress is within us.Whether you want that thing to affect our sanity and peace or to just treat it as a small matter and let it go.Words like, never mind, small matter only, will help us to reduce the stress.Don't let our ego's or emotions rule.

Stop worrying about everything. If anything would happen,it would happen and you cannot do anything about it.Quit worrying and let your mind be free. Give your worries to God.

When there are conflicts, try to solve the conflicts in a rational and unemotional way. It is not a win or lose situation. Who is right or wrong doesn't matter. Move on..

We should try to live a simple life and not complicate our daily thoughts with worthless and unnecessary worries about how others think of us or what to eat or wear.

Just go out there , be happy and enjoy the things you like to do.

Should you tell your partner all your problems ?

A woman give her all in a relationship and she expects the same back from the man.Unfortunately a man cannot give his all to her as he has to think of his career and has to balance her and career in his life.Generally, most women make this wrong assumption about men until they learn the truth .

There are pro's and con's for sharing all your problems with her. It will depend on the seriousness and gravity of the issues. If it is a major thing , then the man should tell her, otherwise he should just keep it to himself and not to burden her.

Men and women are different not only physically , but emotionally and psychologically. Many may not be aware of the differences and they think their partner should think like them.

If you are still not aware of this fact , then you should better sit up straight and take real notice and all ears when your wife is speaking.

Are you really listening ? Maybe she nags too much and your inner ears are closed without your realizing it .

When you were wooing her, you were all attentive and on all fours ready to do her bidding's upon her command.But strangely, after she got hitched to you, your mind seems not to functioned like before.

You have developed an auto immune mechanism that simply shuts down the system from reaching your brain ,when they detect nagging's.(What's that you are mumbling about dear? yak! yak!yak!)

Your external ears may be opened but your mind and heart are not in tuned with what she is saying or you are not receiving the message from her loud and clear. Got those little nasty rascal Gremlins in your system.

Women worries a lot and too much.If you tell them your daily problems, soon it will not have enough hard disk to store them .

Your problems are like viruses which duplicate and crowd out all the free spaces in her hard disk and she will have those problems etched on her face whenever you meet.
So sad, so sad!! You will make her aged faster and saddled her with your burdens.

Even small problems , can look like mountains to her.
While you just tell her and then forget about it and enjoy your daily chores as if nothing has happened.

She will be worrying every now and then and it will affect her moods for the whole day or even weeks .She may not eat or sleep well after you have made known your problems to her because of her worries.

Still think it is a good idea to unload all your rubbish into her bedroom?

Maybe, very big problem where you need her strength or support.Otherwise, better to go drown yourself with your buddies and keep your stress and problems away from the home sweet home,where your homely and beautiful wife is waiting for you.